(Closed) Buying a house and planning a wedding

posted 9 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Congratulations!  Brookline is such a great area!  We decided we couldn’t really afford to buy a place in NYC and pay for the wedding, so we’re still renting for now.  But my Fiance can’t wait until he’s a homeowner. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We’re doing this, almost on the same schedule as you! We close next week and are getting married in September!  Not to mention our house needs some work before we can even move in! Its so exciting, I’m not complaining, we’re so lucky to be fortunate enough to be able to do this, but WOW- it does feel like A LOT  to take on! Congratulations and may you be joyfully unstressed :o)

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I definitely feel for you! Last July we were about to book our wedding for this September…however the day before we were going to put the deposit down we found a house we liked…so we put in an offer, and you know how crazy the whole house process is! So I  decided to put the wedding off for a while to deal with the house and get settled in.  I have to say I wish I would have done both at the same time because this April we booked our wedding for this August…leaving not much time to plan and so much to do!  If I would’ve started in July it probably would not have been so crazy now! Either way I think planning a wedding, buying a house, and not to mention WORK are so involved and time consuming, that it’s probably better that you are doing everything all together, you get it all over with at the same time…the sooner you will be able to sit back and RELAX and enjoy your new married life in your new home!

Good Luck to you!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

And I thought my Fiance and I were the only people crazy enough to take on these two tasks!!  I won’t even go into the drama about getting financing.  In the end, we had to use our entire wedding savings to add into the down payment.  We close July 13th and our wedding is November 7th.  Luckily, my Fiance is starting his new job July 1st and our wedding budget isn’t going to affected too much.

 GOOD LUCK!!

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Congratulations!  Great news (even if it will be stressful for a time).

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Oh yea! We are building and are about to close on the loan and our dig date is the scheduled for the week of the wedding, which is an awesome wedding present but at the same time, there are so many things I could be doing that day. The dig day is symbolyic and they like you there etc. The house has definetly been more stressful than the wedding!

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

we did the same thing.  got engaged early fall (sept).  started planning the wedding… then put in an offer in dec for a house… got the house in january… he moved in in feb… got married in march.  Dec- Jan were pretty stressful… but it’s totally doable…. 🙂 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Just about. We closed on our house in the last day of July and then got engaged in early October. While we’re not currently going through the buying process, we’re deeply involved in home improvement projects!

Since we moved in, we’ve stripped wallpaper, textured, painted just about every room, replaced the fence, removed 3 trees & planted 3 new ones, and we’re currently in the process of laying sod, landscaping, remodeling/painting/tiling etc. the bathrooms, and replacing our kitchen countertops. WHEE.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

Yeah, we’re also crazy enough to do both at once. Sometimes I wonder if I’m genuinely insane – I graduate this spring, hopefully closing on the house this summer, getting married in August, moving to England in September.

It’s ridiculous.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Congrats!  We attempted to do the same, but it ended up that we didn’t get our place until after the wedding.  I can relate to the stress of it all, but you know, everything happens for a reason.  Enjoy your lovely new home…YAY!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2000

I just moved in to our new home we purchased last week. Our wedding is in October. 

 Expect to feel stressed, but stay calm. Plan it out and clear your schedule from wedding stuff the week prior and the week after.  Plan out when you will postpone wedding stuff to the tee so you know it will get done even if you are in ‘moving zone’ for 2+ weeks straight. It’ll be tight but it will be way more manageable if you have mapped it out and stay disciplined. Also, enlist the help of 2 key relatives/packing experts (my mom) and cleaning expert (grandma). They can get you to throw things out or organize. People who can keep you really focused on task at hand. We paid an extra 200 dollars to cover a cleaning person and arranged it with the landlord ahead of time so they would give it to the tenant and they could just take care of it on their time, leaving you free to setup the new place. Again, a little bit of money and planning can help you a lot.  I also sent out an email to reliable people to schedule the help with the move ahead of time.  They were very happy (we fed them and took pics to mark this milestone) to pitch in. You can do it..it’ll feel crazy but it’s possible.

The key is to set a packing/moving timeline, just like the wedding: box 1 room a day (at the least), set a moving date with friends/family to help, rent a moving truck (worth every penny) and do it in one load if possible, clean with help. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2000

by the way, prepare your fi for the TEMPORARY stress, be flexible, take good care of your health (sleep/eat/rest/pray) and look for what you can cut out of your schedule for those 2-3 weeks.

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