Buying a house vs. renting

posted 2 years ago in Home
Post # 2
1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

BritishPandaChick :  have you guys decided how you will do finances after you’re married? 


Post # 3
1002 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Well I’ve rented since I was 18 years old, and the hard part with renting is you are pretty much paying double what you would if you actually had a mortgage. It makes it almost a trap to get out of the cycle, since you are dumping so much money into pretty much a financial black hole. Kind of makes it hard to save up, pay bills and rent at the same time. At least in my area.

I can see both of your sides honestly. House = cheaper monthly payment but more responsibility. Rent = higher payments but you aren’t locked in.

If you did get a house and wanted to relocate, you could make money off renting your house out as well.

ETA I’d want to solidify the relationship before buying a house with someone. 

Post # 4
5004 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2018

I rented for a year, and bought my house about a year ago. I bought it all by myself – Boyfriend or Best Friend wasn’t even in the picture then, we met afterward – and it was the best thing I EVER did! I highly recommend it. My mortgage is $200 less than my rent was and for 2.5x the living space. Plus, as a PP mentioned, if I ever need to move, I can just sell or rent it. 

If your Fiance is serious about buying, tell him to get in touch with a lender and get a pre-approval letter. That’ll tell you both how much the bank thinks he can afford or if he even qualifies, and then you can go from there. He may not qualify for anything that matters or even at all. 

Post # 5
1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

You guys aren’t married yet. But your debt is his debt, and his savings is your savings after you say your I dos. 

I’m not saying you should make this decision together before you’re married.. but it wouldn’t hurt to make it later. 

Darling Husband and I live in Cleveland. We pay $350 a month for our apartment. It’s a steal. But it’s giving us the opportunity to pay off student loan debt and then save cash for a house. It will take us longer to get there bc of the amount of debt, but we should be there in under two years. 

Cleveland is a very affordable renters area. 

Post # 6
726 posts
Busy bee

Have you lived together before? 

Post # 7
5814 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

If you are already engaged I don’t really see the benefit of renting first if he has the money saved already.  

I wouldn’t buy a house with someone I hadn’t lived with before, but I wouldn’t get engaged to them either. 

Post # 8
1866 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I would get jobs first. Once you both have an offer (or at least the higher earner), then sure buy a house.

Post # 9
2707 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

I wouldn’t buy a house without a job – and mortgage lenders may well agree with me.  He may find that without a job, he won’t get approval. Personally I do prefer owning to renting, but it’s not necessarily cheaper. If your hot water goes out, you can’t just call the landlord and get it fixed – that comes out of your pocket.  Has he realised that the mortgage is not the start and finish of costs?

Post # 10
428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - State Park

Here’s the thing. You’re both right. It’s not about him or you being “out there” in your thought process. But if you don’t agree before moving forward, you’re both wrong. 

Why weren’t living/housing plans discussed before you got engaged?

Post # 11
1116 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m a risk taker and a real estate agent. So take my advice however you’d like. BUT

The interest rates are historically low right now!! Why wouldn’t you take advantage of that!?! If you can get approved, buy something below what you can afford. Get something that needs a little work (cosmetic work, ripping out carpets, re-painting etc).  Who knows what will happen to the interest rates 5 years from now. If/when they go up even 1%, first of all you won’t be able to spend as much on a house and your payment will be hundreds more. Just think about that. And, if you qualify, you can get a conventional loan with 5% down. Lots of my clients are doing it. 


And if you plan to move…rent it out. Like one of the above posters said, rent can sometimes be double what the mortgage payment is. You could potentially make money. 


I really just hate to see people waste money on rent (you’re paying for someone else’s mortgage. Probably a full mortgage AND partial of their personal home). If you can swing it, home ownership is the way to go

Post # 12
7130 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

With renting you are essentially paying someone else’s mortgage. That being said, renting has it’s place and is the normal solution for people at various stages of their life. There’s nothing “wrong” with renting. Yes, if you are someone who can afford to buy a home and plan to stay in an area for a long time renting is probably a waste of money.

Darling Husband and I rented a house for two years because we were living out of state for college. Once we moved back to our hometown, we rented a condo while house hunting. We could have taken the first house that came along for the sake of buying something – but we would have rather rented and gotten exactly what we wanted….and we did!

While we love being homeowners, owning isn’t the end all, be all. My brother owned his home for years, and upon moving for work struggled to sell it. He and his wife have been renting in their new city for like 3 years. Up until this year they didn’t see themsevles owning again because they had started to enjoy the freedom from homeowner reponsibilities that renting gave them. Now that they’re looking for some land they are back to wanting to own but for a long time after their first house sold they were perfectly happy renting.

It sounds to me like buying isn’t the right thing for you guys right now. Your fiance is applying for jobs, and who is to say he’ll even get a job in the area? Sure you could rent the house out, and there is certainly money to be made in rentals – but being a landlord (unless you’re able to work with a management company) is A LOT of work and renters are hell on a property. You don’t have a job right now, which means you aren’t going to reasonably be able to contribute.

Above all that, you guys just don’t seem to be on the same page with finances. How will you settle things like this once you’re married?

Post # 13
640 posts
Busy bee

BritishPandaChick :  I wouldn’t ever commit to a mortgage with someone I’m not married to because you don’t have the same financial protections you would in the event of a divorce.  Don’t feel pressured or guilted into a situation you’re not comfortable with. 

If your fiancé has sufficient funds for a 20% down payment and will still have a 6-12 month living cushion he has sufficient funds.  Since he’s living at home he would need to be already saving the equivalent of the mortgage, plus utilities, and extra for a home maintenance fund monthly to know it’s easily affordable for him. 

I don’t think it’s advisable to buy a home right after starting a new job or when you might be moving in the next 7 years (you lose a ton of money in closing costs and realtor fees.) 


TLDR: I agree that it’s probably best to wait to buy a house.  I wouldn’t co-sign on the mortgage before marriage. The unexpected home repairs and loss funds if you need to move in a few years aren’t things he’s considering. Ohio to my knowledge isn’t a hot property market so there isn’t the rush to buy like in Seattle or San Francisco. 

Post # 14
478 posts
Helper bee

BritishPandaChick :  hmmm.. where I am has a huge property bubble atm and we believe that the prices will go down sometime next year so we’ve been renting for the past 1.5yrs or so although we have the money to buy- ends up being cheaper that way because prices could go down arouns 100k whereas renting =less than 25k a year. Unless you are in a situation like us, I would probably buy and if you end up moving, then rent it out! If you can afford a house, dont get an apartment. Land appreciates in value, apartments dont hold their values as much-  unless the market goes up..

Post # 15
1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle

Has he been pre-approved by a mortgage lender yet? Without that, everything else may be a moot point because I doubt he’d qualify anyway from all that you’ve said here. Is he looking at homes in Cleveland or Columbus? 

Eta: we rented for about 5 years before we bought our house. 

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