(Closed) buying a second wedding band?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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11394 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

You could get the new band as your something new for your wedding day! If anyone asks tell them that & I think thats a beautiful story!

As far as having a second band after so many years of marriage. Alot of people do think that. But some people get two bands before the big day or right after or even on the 1 year anniversary!

 

Post # 4
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14405 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Personally, I would scrap the idea and wait, but more for financial reasons than anything else.   If he’s working min wage and you’re just making a little more and you both are just getting by… and it may hurt his feelings for you to buy your own second band.. perhaps its better to just stick with the one, and wait for the 1 or 5 yrs anniversary to add another band or upgrade down the road when in a better financial situation, which is why many people wait for that second band.

Post # 5
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645 posts
Busy bee

@RAWR.its.BREN: I would talk to him about it… I know a lot of men might feel like that it something that they will need to provide for their wife. (Rather than you paying for it)… I don’t really think that you need to me married for a while….all that matters is that you are happy with the rings that you are wearing on your finger every day.

I’ve seen plenty of the bees with a three ring sandwich… e-ring in the middle. 

Post # 6
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I don’t see why you can’t buy yourself a second band! I paid for both of my wedding bands. 

maybe tell your husband first: like: “hey, I’m thinking about buying myself a second band to add to my wedding set, to balance it out.” or something to that effect. make it sound like it’s no big deal. if you frame it a certain way, I think most guys would be cool about it. 

oh also, I LOVE your screen name!

Post # 7
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1473 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I love the look of 2 bands and I plan on getting 2 as well, but we are also having 2 weddings. I say if you want 2, get them but I would tread carefully when talking to him about this. It could make him feel as though what he was able to already get you was not enough and it could realllllly hurt his feelings. Or he might be all for it but the fact that you might be paying for your own wedding band could definitly hurt his pride and that never turns out well. Choose your battles wisely and good luck!

Post # 8
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1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

If you can afford it I say do it!  I bought my engagement ring, you are the one who will be wearing it or them.

Post # 10
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215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2006

I love the idea of mrs. Esteps that it could be your something new.  I don’t see a problem with it at all that your not married a certain number of years and doubt he would be annoyed, my Fiance wouldn’t anyway.  Just casually mention it and add that obviously the one he bought you is the real wedding band yours is just an additional one, to make sure his ego doesn’t get dented.  I had a look at your ring, its so pretty, who cares what metal it’s made of or how much it was, your fiance put it on your finger with the same love as any other woman with a huge rock.

Post # 12
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2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I see nothing wrong with two bands.  DH put two bands on my finger during the wedding ceremony.  I’ve worn the two bands since day one!  However, if I were you I’d make sure it was okay with my Darling Husband before purchasing a 2nd band on your own.  If he’s sentimental or sensitive he may not appreciate that.  If he’s anything like my Darling Husband he wouldn’t care one bit.  

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