Post # 1
Of course I am very excited to marry my bestfriend. Unfortunatly I have gaind some weight througout the 2 years we were dating. I am determined to lose the weight before I get married, and look faboulous on my wedding day.
Problem? I just got engaged on christmas, and am now getting married in August! How long do I need to order my wedding dress. Can I wait till im a bit thinner, or will that limit my selection? Im scared to order a smaller size and have it not fit, or buy the right size and have it be so big they cant alter it.
I would love advice or personal experience stories!!
Post # 3
i bought mine of the internet from america, (im australian). I foolishly didnt take notice of the measurements and just got it based on what my size is (not having done enough research on sizes i went with my street size not knowing thye generally run smaller). Unfortunatly it came so small i couldnt even start to zip it up.. im now 10 weeks out and only have about 3inches tto zip up. So i have lost alot of weight, but i dont think i would have if i didnt have the dress there to motivate me. ive still got about 20lbs to loose before i get back to my “pre living with SO” weight, but i think i cna do it. i was so active before i moved in with him. over the past two weeks i have lost 6lbs, just from clean eating and alot of execise. It is a pain in the arse, but i love the dress i got and i dotn wanna get it altered at all! (besides it will be worth it!!)so i thik you can do it, but you need to sty motivated! i have a weightloos sheet on the fridge and it has my weekly goal weights, so far im on target. I think you need to have goals set! and give yourself a reward once you get to it (not food related)!!
Post # 4
@Kubatpark12: Can I say I’m in the same boat? I got engaged Christmas day and getting married July 27 and I’m losing weight.
Basically from what I have been told you need about 6 months, min, to order a dress in. They can size down about 2 sizes and size up about 1 size (on most dresses) without completely redoing the dress.
My problem is that I want a lace dress and alterations on lace are CRAZY. As in likely more than the cost of the dress itself. So my choice was order in a store and spend the $1000-$1500 for the dress, then another $1000 or more for alterations assuming I do lose the 20lbs I expect to, or figure out something else.
I decided to order from Dressilyme. I can order the dress I love for 1/3 the price and have it custom altered to me. They can get you a dress without a rush price from 8 weeks out of your wedding, so I think I will order my dress the first week of April and expect it to arrive by the first week of June. That gives me 1 month to figure the rest out!
Whatever you choose, I wouldn’t suggest buying a size down. As determined as you are (and I am!) to lose weight, you don’t know where it will shed first. Even if you lose it in your bust and waist, if your bum stays the same size you will still need the larger size, as they fit to your largest measurement and go from there. It would probably be better to order to fit what you look like now, and just suck it up to pay the alteration money to go down a size or more.
Post # 6
I am getting married in 2.5 months so I have to buy off the rack/off craigslist. Since I’m doing it that way, Im waiting to buy it until a month before the wedding, so I will be as close as possible to my goal weight! You may have your heart set on a new gown though.. I kinda did but now I have no options!! lol
Post # 7
It depends on how much weight you want to lose and what style of dress you end up choosing.
I ordered my dress in my pre-weight loss size, and had it altered to fit me later when I had lost 20 pounds. Mine was no problem to alter because it was mostly simple ruching. Dresses with complicated beadwork, lace or embellishments can be more difficult (and expensive) to alter.
I would go check out a few stores and get an idea of what kind of dresses you like. If you gravitate towards styles that will be easy to take in, I’d go right ahead and just get a dress now. If you prefer dresses that are more complicated or embellished, check with the store to see what you’re looking at alterations-wise and decide accordingly.
If you decide to wait, you will likely be more limited to sample dresses unless they can get a rush order in. Pros of this: less likely to spend big bucks on alterations, and you’ll be able to directly see how you look in dresses at your ideal weight. Cons of this: more stress, more limited selection of dresses to choose from.
Check around at your local bridal salons and find out what the average deadlines are for ordering for an August wedding. That way you’ll know if you have any wiggle room to put off the search a bit.
Post # 8
WOW we’re exactly in the same situation! I’m getting married on the same date as you, got engaged less than a monthh ago and also need to loose about 20 lbs.
I asked my friends and I really didn’t want to buy a dress, but rent a new one, which is less expensive and you don’t have to figure out what to do with the dress afterwards… That’s not a possibility now and to make matters worst, I live in Colombia.
Women here are usually skinny and stores don’t have bigger sizes. I’m a US size 8 and here that’s like a plus size. I’m really depressed because all my friends are telling me I need to get something now but what if I lose the weight? What if I like a dress now and they can’t alter it later??
I just read the good advise, but I feel like a freak because I want a dress with sleeves and that limits my options even more. I hate my flabby arms and absolutely won’t show them off wearing sleeveless or strapless,, sniff!
Post # 9
Well it is nice to know that others are in the same boat! My friends want to go dress shopping right away (I am the first to get engaged) But I want to hold off atleast till im a bit more comfortable! I would hate trying on plus size dresses, espically since I was not this big most of my life! I just dont want to limit my selection to much by either waiting, or not having dresses in bigger sizes to try on. Both options seem to be a problem.
I think I will go next month, becaus I atleast need an idea of what I like. Plus how long can I wait?!?! i have been waiting for this for years!?! I’m just nervous!!
Post # 10
So good to know I’m not alone… I have started cutting on my portions and sugar, but I have an appointment with a doctor next week to start a real diet and exercising according to their advise. I expect to be a size 4 for my wedding but I have struggled with weight most of my life. I went from being a size 14 to a size 4 in less than a year so that left me with a lot of loose skin and this is what causes my arm problem. During the last year (the time I’ve been dating my now FI) I have fell off the wagon and stopped exercising, started eating a lot more (like him) so this is why I now need to loose these pounds before the wedding.
I am depressed and he says we have time but I hate having to go through the diet process again… witht the stress of the dress.
Anyway I think I’ll wait and see too… the worst thing that can happen is that I have to shop off the rack and I’m sure there’s plenty of options out there. I just saw a thread of a girl who tried on 130 dresses before finding the perfect one, but she did. Even if I have to take off a few days from work and go shopping to another city, I’ll find it, we’ll find it!