(Closed) Buying a wedding dress YOU love vs. a dress FI would love

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Did you buy the dress of YOUR dreams or HIS?
    I bought a dress that I know I would love, screw my FI, he better be lucky to have me show up at all : (81 votes)
    28 %
    I bought a dress that I know my FI would drool over despite it not being my favorite : (10 votes)
    4 %
    I think I found a dress that we both will love : (194 votes)
    68 %
  • Post # 47
    3184 posts
    Sugar bee

    Your FH will love you in whatever dress you pick out IMO.

    I LOVED both A-line dresses and fit and flare ones. Darling Husband liked A-lines more so I went with an A-line. Loved my dress though.

    Post # 48
    513 posts
    Busy bee

    @MrsAgainstTheGrain:  That is SO beautiful. I love all Justice of the Peace dresses, I wish I could afford one! Your Fiance will love it. ๐Ÿ™‚

    I’m paying for my dress. While I’ll consider FI’s opinion, the end result is going to be the dress that I ultimately love. I showed him a dress with a mermaid shape (which I may or may not get) and he liked it. Good enough for me!


    Post # 49
    1047 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I’m having some mild second thoughts about my dress for this reason. My dress is a simple bateau neck aline. I know Fiance would like to see me in somthing that, to put it bluntly, shows off my arse! To his credit he does say that he’ll love whatever I wear. 

    Post # 50
    753 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’m pretty sure that most of my tastes in style are his too, he likes clothing that compliments my body but isn’t over the top exposed. I never really even considered that my Fiance might not like my choice, I’m pretty sure what I chose is to his taste as well. I’m pretty sure he knows that a traditional ball gown wouldn’t be complimentary on me, that would be the only real curveball. 

    Post # 51
    224 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    For me, it’s more about the confidence thing. I have pretty bad self image issues. Fiance is very supportive. His fave outfits of mine are ones that I am comfortable in. If I’m comfortable I’m not second guessing and I’m just more confident. That’s what I kept in mind while dress shopping. If I’m comfortable in it, and it looks good on me, then I know he’ll like it no matter what style it is. Therefore, I picked something I liked, but I know he’ll like it too.

    Post # 52
    88 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    It was hard enough to settle on my own opinion, let alone add in my fiance’s opinion. What I liked changed drastically after dress shopping. I was convinced I wanted form fitting, lace, and cap sleeves. But what worked with my comfort and body was definitely a ball gown style. I got a Mori Lee gown. Fashion suggests I might be a little stumpy, but I feel wonderful in that dress. My fellow is wearing what he wants to wear as well, which is all white. I don’t know what he likes best, and he’s never mentioned it. I hope he likes it, but if not, it will be fine, he likes me well enough ๐Ÿ™‚ . 

    Post # 53
    793 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Before I went shopping, I asked if there was anything he really DIDN’T like in a wedding dress. He said he would love anything on me. His only request was that there was “nothing huge covering up your boobs.” I tend to think that guys will love whatever you love (and therefore feel confident in!) even if it was a style they didn’t think they liked. Hubby told me thaeven looked even more beautiful than he had imagined, and he knew the dress was perfectly “me”.

    Post # 54
    198 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I got a dress that I loved without thinking much of what Fiance would like. He just wants me to be happy so I know he would like whatever I wore that day ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 55
    139 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @pixiecat: +1 I highly doubt any groom is thinking to himself when his beautiful bride walks down the aisle “I can’t believe she picked a ballgown, I like mermaid dresses much better”  This is my thinking exactly! 

    Men don’t always know what they like when it comes to womens clothes. Seeing something that he likes on the rack or on a model doesn’t mean it will look good on US (but that something women already know). So he might think he likes one thing, but unless he’s seen a bunch of different dresses on you specifically I think it would be really hard for him to know for sure. If your dress suits your personality and you love the way it looks on you I’m sure he’ll love it too. My Fiance just wants me to pick one that I love, and if I’m happy he’s happy. 

    Post # 56
    400 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    My Fiance knew I was going dress shopping, so he should have made it clear beforehand that he had likes and dislikes. Okay, he did mention that he likes strapless, and I did end up getting one with straps, but I know my mom is always worried about girls in strapless gowns having them fall down (i know they won’t if they’re fitted right, but she has irrational fears ๐Ÿ™‚ ). What I didn’t know until after purchasing my dress is that he doesn’t like ivory. I could have special ordered my dress in white, but I didn’t know about his anti-ivory sentiments. It’s so bad that he calls my dress brown (and hasn’t seen it) and complains when I suggest that he might wear an ivory vest and tie. But he’s going to have to deal with it…. it’s not like it’s a dark ivory!

    Post # 57
    6354 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Since I’m marrying him, the least I can do is choose a dress he’ll love.

    I wear what I love every other day of my life.

    Luckily, we do have similar taste, e.g., neither of us like the idea of a “sexy” wedding gown e.g., mermaid, because we see it as a very serious, almost sacred occasion. But some of the details he prefers I’m just so-so on. I’m glad if it makes him swoon over the ethereal beauty though… after all that’s what a wedding gown should do the groom ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 58
    1285 posts
    Bumble bee

    I gave Fiance about 50 dresses to look at and narrow down to his most 3 favorite and pick his #1, #2 and #3.  Ok….#2 and #3 I couldn’t buy in this country, so that left me with #1.  Which was one of my picks also.  I told him “eh…I have something else in mind, but keep an eye out”….I found a dress I thought he’d like besides his #1 because I really couldn’t find it anyways.

    I was going to go try it on for a fitting to order – decided to call another bridal shop just to see if they had his #1 pick…and they DID! So I went and tried it on and fell in love with it myself!! He knew exactly what would look great on me. I ordered it. AND it was $300 cheaper than my original pick.  He has no clue. I’m going to have a hard time keeping this a secret from him!

    Post # 59
    1150 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I tried so very hard to find a dress that we both would like. He doesn’t like strapless, doesn’t like lace, doesn’t like trains and x and y and z. Eventually, he just admitted, “I think I just don’t like wedding dresses.”

    Oh really?

    Then, he said “Get what you want because all I’m going to be thinking about is getting it off of you.”

    Ok… so I ended up getting a strapless lace dress. At least it doesn’t have a long train! So, to answer the poll, I got the dress that I wanted but “screw my Fiance, he better be lucky to have me show up at all” does not apply to me.


    Post # 60
    4133 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Before I went dress shopping, I showed Fiance my “file” online of dresses I liked (there were about 20). I asked his opinion on them – what did he like, what didn’t he like. As my stand out favorite was a tea length dress in a color they call coffee, I wanted to make sure he wasn’t totally opposed. In that batch were 3-4 tea length dresses, dresses in champagne, coffee, white, and blush, as well as strapless and dresses with straps.

    He was totally fine with tea length, hated almost all the dresses with straps. I got his opinion in general, but went with what I felt beautful in (which was my favorite from the instant I started looking)

    Post # 61
    9818 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Most guys have no idea what they really want when it comes to your wedding dress.  All I know about Fiance is that he doesn’t like one-shoulder dresses.  I’m going to buy the dress I love, and he will love it because I will look great in it.

    It’s your wedding day, he will love you in whatever you wear.

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