(Closed) Buying a wedding dress YOU love vs. a dress FI would love

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Did you buy the dress of YOUR dreams or HIS?
    I bought a dress that I know I would love, screw my FI, he better be lucky to have me show up at all : (81 votes)
    28 %
    I bought a dress that I know my FI would drool over despite it not being my favorite : (10 votes)
    4 %
    I think I found a dress that we both will love : (194 votes)
    68 %
  • Post # 62
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    1450 posts
    Bumble bee

    I vote you should buy your DREAM dress (but leave out the “screw what your Fiance thinks”).  I believe women should always wear what makes THEM feel beautiful and glamorous.  Because if you’re feeling happy, your man is going to be happy too – regardless of what you’re wearing.  

    My Fiance will love anything I choose to wear on our wedding day, as long as I’m happy.  Maybe I’m old school but I subscribe to the saying that a man should never tell a woman how she should wear her make-up, style her hair, or how to dress – because it’s personal, super impolite, and quite frankly none of his business (unless you’re a complete slob and can’t dress yourself at all).  Then again, my Fiance and I both appreciate each other’s sense of style & fashion so we trust that whatever we put on it’s going to look ggoooooddd!  😉

     

    Post # 63
    Member
    100 posts
    Blushing bee

    @housebee:  Whoa, that picture looks like it has an interesting story attached. Why’d you have your dress cut off?

    Post # 64
    Member
    1649 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2000

    We had this conversation after I bought my dress, he said he really didn’t like those strapless mermaid dresses and I thought to myself, phew! If I did get that, I’d probably reconsider my choice.

    Post # 65
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    8439 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @taylorbee:  it was long and annoying to dance in lol.  I’m actually having the dress shortened so I can wear it as a cocktail dress anyways.

    Post # 66
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    43 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My mom and friend shopped for and picked my wedding dress and sent it to me because of this AMAZING deal at a sample sale back in Texas (I live in CA), so neither of us had a say or opinion in the way it looked.

    Fiance really wants to be surprised, so I hadn’t really considered his opinion at all.

    We went to buy his suit this past weekend (Hello Father’s day clothing sales!) I had a vision for what he’d wear in my mind, but then he reached for a gray suit which I didn’t expect. He put it on and just seeing the way he stood there looking dapper and confident, I knew that he knew best.

    I feel like it makes the most sense to wear something you feel good in and confident in, rather than feeling frumpy in a poufy dress or feeling squeezed in something “sexy”.

     

    Post # 67
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    185 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @MrsAgainstTheGrain:  The dress of MY dreams for sure. If your Fiance had very strong opinions about a certain gown (hates ballgowns, hates mermaids, etc.) then I’d take that into consideration, but I would not base my decision on his opinion. You will be happy in a dress that makes you happy, that’s the most important thing. 🙂

    Post # 68
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    12246 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @MrsAgainstTheGrain:  Your dress will matter 64337% more to you than it will to him! While Fiance liked my dress, I DEFINITELY didn’t pick it for that reason!

    Post # 69
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    1081 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I have serious self-esteem issues, and he always tells me I’m beautiful in anything I wear, so I really didn’t think of his opinion (I also had NO idea what he would like/dislike in a wedding gown).. I just focused on finding something I’d be comfortable in and feel beautiful in, because I know my confidence will show. 🙂

     

    Post # 70
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    262 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    It will DEFINITELY be the dress of my dress. 

    Post # 71
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    1772 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I wouldn’t freak out over a stray comment from your guy. He might mean he liked that it was low cut, or that it had no ruffles, or that it was white. It might not be anything like what you think it means. He mightve picked something just because he thought he had to, that’s the first dress he thought of, and it wasn’t ugly. And they usually don’t care about what we’re wearing half as much as we do. 

    Post # 72
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    219 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    When I was growing up I always knew that I would wear a ballgown and look like a princess! When I showed my Fiance pictures of dress in the style that I liked, the one thing he said was “I don’t like dresses with tulle”. That was exactly what I wanted!

    Needless to say my anxiety and stress shot through the roof, then I noticed his blank look when I showed him other dresses. Or the “that’s okay” comments I would get. 

    Needless to say, I chose the dress I knew I would feel the most beautiful in (strapless, ballgown, tulle skirt), and I am confident that he will adore me in it. 

    Post # 73
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    130 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    lol, Darling Husband hated my wedding dress. I showed it to him before I bought it, and he told me he hated it. I brought the dress home and he still hated it. I didn’t care. He was marrying me, not the dress.

    Fuck it, my dress was awesome. He can deal!

    Post # 74
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    2142 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I wouldn’t have wanted to get a dress that I knew Fiance would dislike. I think he’d probably prefer me to wear something more sexy, but I picked something I’d be comfortable in that I think he’ll still like plenty. So it’s a bit of a compromise. But this is all speculation cause I haven’t shown him the dress!

    Post # 75
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    2268 posts
    Buzzing bee

    In general terms; I do think it’s important that your Fiance likes the style/colour of your wedding dress, but if he likes ball gowns and they make you feel/look frumpy and uncomfortable, I’m sure he’d rather you wore something you loved/felt comfortable in.

    Luckily SO and I tend to like the same styles, but I know he will think I look beautiful in whatever I wear on our wedding day.

    Post # 76
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    9095 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I never factored in my husband’s opinions when I was buying my gown. He wasn’t wearing it, and I highly doubt he’d ever care.

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