(Closed) Buying a wedding dress YOU love vs. a dress FI would love

posted 7 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Did you buy the dress of YOUR dreams or HIS?

    I bought a dress that I know I would love, screw my FI, he better be lucky to have me show up at all

    I bought a dress that I know my FI would drool over despite it not being my favorite

    I think I found a dress that we both will love

  • Post # 92
    306 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I went in with the veiw of i dont care what he wants im getting what i like. i got mermaid. he mentioned to me he thinks im going to wear a mermaid but to be honest he said he doesnt mind, he doesn think a lady should look like a princess on her wedding day so as long as it wasnt a straight column flat dress he would like anything!

    Post # 93
    53 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Future hubby helped me pick my dress and I loved being able to have his input. I originally wanted a black or coloured wedding dress but he as said from the start of wedding the wedding that he’d far prefer it if I had a white/ivory or silver dress to be more traditional, so I ended up finding an ivory dress I love and showed it to him before I bought it to see if he liked it too and he thinks it’s gorgeous 🙂 Plus by having his help with dress shopping I could rave about my dress to him and he could help me put it on at home 🙂

    Post # 94
    778 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - Catal Restaurant

    My guy would watch syttd with me so I know that he really wanted me in a tight fitting dress and in the beginning I was all for it. I had tried on 2 ball gowns and didnt like them. Then all of a sudden I was LOVING them! They made me feel bridal. I decided to get what I wanted and he will love me on that dsy no matter what.

    Post # 95
    491 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @MrsAgainstTheGrain:  Don’t change your dress based on what he said. In my experience most men tend to judge the picture as a whole and are unable to seperate the clothes from the person wearing them. I have tested this on my own Fiance multiple times with bridal magazines. The hotter the model, the more he likes the dress! Lol! I bet your friend looked lovely in her dress and that’s why he thought it was nice. You will look great in the one you picked and he will be wowed. 

    Post # 96
    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I chose the first poll option even though it’s a little harsh. I wouldn’t say ‘screw Fiance, he’ll be lucky to have me show up at all!’ but I brought a dress I loved, because I love fashion and I always dress how I want to – and that’s what Fiance knows and must obviously love about me. He’d be apalled if he thought I’d tried to find a dress based on what HE would like. I know he’ll be happy to see me happy in my dress and won’t care either way if it’s big, small or black with green polka dots. I would stick with your Jenny Packham, I’m sure your Fiance will love it like you do!

    Post # 97
    7757 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    It never even occurred to me to consider what my DH would want me to wear. Indeed, I didn’t want him to have the faintest clue about my dress because I thought it should be a surprise and he should not see it before the wedding.

    Honestly, I think most men are overwhelmed by the vision of their bride. Period. It almost doesn’t matter what she wears because the setting and the music and her being dressed in a way he doesn’t normally see her makes everything different. It is likely he will think you are absolutely beautiful in whatever you choose, and the dress you wear will change his mind forever about what an “ideal” wedding dress is.

    I’m not suggesting anyone wear ripped jeans and a t-shirt to get married. I am just saying that many men THINK they know what kind of dress they want to see their Fiance in, but it is more often than not a picture in their head from something else. When he sees YOU, you will look perfect, even if the dress is different from what he might have expected.

    Post # 98
    141 posts
    Blushing bee


    I honestly just bought the dress that I had my bridal moment in. It was the first dress I tried on and everything afterwards just paled in comparison. It wasn’t until I paid the down payment that I even thought about my fiance. I know, terrible, right?! It is basically a princess dress, which is not at all what I thought I was going to get. But, the waistline sits just slightly above my natural waistline. Not a true empire waist, but leaning in that direction. And then I remembered, my fiance is not a fan of empire waistlines. But then I thought, if I look as good in this dress as I think I do, I don’t think my fiance will ever think one negative thing about it. And neither will yours! So get what you feel good in and he will feel good about it too!

    Post # 99
    1004 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013



    DH didn’t see my dress prior to the big day, however before I shopped I asked him what type of shillouette he preffered. He didn’t care for mermaid or column style dresses as much as the big typical princess styles, so that helped me some. Also I will add that initially when I started looking I had said no ball gowns, but in my heart and as long as I can recall I wanted to wear one on my wedding day, and once he told me that, I gave into it and found the dress of my dreams.

    Post # 100
    429 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Having just got my dress 2 days ago (!!!) I’m not too concerned about FH being disappointed.  He’s totally fine with whatever I pick out.  


    It’s form fitting and something I think I look good in, so I think he’ll be quite happy with it.

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