Post # 1
I am curious what the “rule” is or what you have done. We’ve gone to a few places to look at the rings, and found the setting I absolutely love. We are going to go look some more, but if I find THE ONE while looking with my SO, I think it is a little weird if he were to buy the ring while I am there. Has anyone done this before? Is this odd? What’s the best way to go about telling him that’s the one you love, without having him buy it then and there?
Post # 3
I watched over my FH’s shoulder while he ordered my ring from MoissyCo, so I definitely don’t think it’s odd.
If you want to tell him, just tell him! Say, “I’d really love X ring, but I don’t want to know when you buy it.”
Post # 4
@chicelegance: Who cares what the “rule” is. What works best for you and SO?
We went ring shopping together. Yes, I was there when he bought it, but I guess he could have gone and bought it without me.
Other girls like to be surprised. That’s ok, if it works for them.
Post # 5
I don’t think it’s werid. Fiance took me ring shopping. We picked out a ring together and he bought it right there. He said he felt a little weird about it, but he was glad we found something together. Unfortunately that ring had some issues with sizing, so we had to return it, but we are in the process of picking out another ring together.
Post # 6
@chicelegance: My Fiance and I bought my ring together. He didn’t know anything about jewelry and he wanted to find something we both really loved. He bought it while I was there and it was before he proposed. I think a lot of couples are doing this now days, at least around my area they are. So I never felt like I was really breaking any rules =)
Post # 7
Thanks for all your feedback, ladies! For those of you who are already engaged…did it take away the “surprise” factor of the proposal because you knew that it’s coming and you knew the ring?
Post # 8
No, because I got a surprise proposal without a ring. Then we went ring shopping.
I later found out this was because he didn’t want to buy a ring in the wrong size, and he didn’t know rings could be resized.
Post # 9
I went ring shopping with DH before he propesed. He said he wants to make sure i get the ring i like. The plan was for me to choose 3 rings that i like then at some other time he’ll go buy a ring from the 3 choices. That way, i’d still get somehow a surprise. But, seeing how much i really loved this one ring, DH bought it right there and then. Well, he bought the diamond and paid for the setting on the spot. Then, i had to wait and i had no idea when the ring would be available for pick-up once the diamond has been set.
I was still caught by surprise when he proposed coz i didnt think he’d have it so soon 🙂
Post # 10
I was the one who essentially chose the rings, with his input of course. I’m a grad student so I’m used to pouring over extensive materials and the Fiance figured that I was the one best equipped to know what I wanted in a ring and to find out where to get it for the best price.
I can honestly say that it took nothing away from how wonderful and romantic the proposal was. Yes, I knew what the rings looked like and that he would be proposing during our trip but I didn’t know when or how he would be proposing and which ring he’d be proposing with.
Post # 11
It’s not weird, everyone has different situations though but the way I look at it – you are lucky that he’s letting you choose your own ring so you don’t end up with something you don’t 100% love.
I got to design my ring and we had it made, he told me what my budget was (I went a little over… oops) but I already knew his financial situation so there was no weirdness about it at all. If you are still being weirded out by it, you could ask him to just pick you one, but then it’s going against what he has had planned and would have thought long and hard about his decision to let you choose.
Post # 12
I agree its not weird. We went together and picked out my rings and he bought it on the spot since it was custom i got to say with other options i wanted than be surprised and not like it later. He had proposed earlier without the ring, so picking it was still special for us to share.