Post # 1
My hubby and I just recently got married and we are talking about having a baby. I don’t have health insurance so I was checking into it. I have found two plans I like but for both I have to wait 12 months before I can TTC! So as soon as I get the insurance I have one year to wait. I was thinking to save money I could start buying things like the crib, dresser, etc, now so I don’t have to worry about it when I’m pregnant. Good idea or not? Some people have told me it’s a jinx, or a bad idea if something happens….What do you bees think about it?
Post # 3
I personally wouldn’t do it. To me that’s jinxing it, (counting your chickens before they hatch). Plus you will change your mind a million times on what sort of crib, etc you want.
I’d wait and just register for all those items for your baby shower.
Post # 4
Saving money is a great idea. Why not have a baby fund for when u get pregnant? Darling Husband totally discouraged me from buying a crib in the first trimester b/c I think he was a little worried (wouldn’t admit it though), but I pushed through and had to strongly urge him to getting around to building it! However, he made the first move and bought me baby shoes as a ‘congratulations–happy we are pregnant’ gift. OH and, just you wait. Don’t buy stuff yet…people will buy you stuff or you will score deals at the right time. But sure, why not save a little cash in the meantime, couldn’t hurt. Seriously, wait til after the showers. I never realized grandparents (and friends) do go crazy to support your little one when he/she is on the way.
Take some time off from shopping, save money and just research if you want to get all baby crazy. 🙂
Post # 5
Unless there is an enormous financial advantage to buying your furniture early (like you found a set for SUPER cheap) I would wait and just save your money. You’ll go through a hormonal nesting stage when you are preggers, and if you’ve already bought everything it’ll drive you crazy and you’ll just want to buy it again. Kind of like buying a wedding dress too early. I bought a lot of stuff in my first trimester that I returned to the store. I changed my mind A LOT. At least I was within the 90 day return policy so I could return everything for a full refund.
So yeah, my vote is to wait.
Post # 6
I think it is really bad luck. My family believes that it is even bad luck to actually setup the nursey before the baby is born. My cousins have all had everthing sent to their mothers homes and then family members went set everything up before mom and baby came home from the hospital.
Post # 7
I think waiting is the best thing to do,plus think about it once your actually pregnant it will be more special and exciting shopping for your bubs.
Post # 8
I agree with the others. I think since pregnancy is never a “sure” thing that waiting is the best choice, plus it would be more special to pick it out once you’re actually pregnant.
I always believe in hoping for the best but planning for the worst. Personally if I bought baby furniture and then had problems conceiving – I think it would just be an everyday reminder.
If someone was offering you their baby furniture I’d say definitely take it and store it but to go out and buy something seems like jumping the gun a bit.
Stash the baby money for sure but wait to make any purchases.
Post # 9
I’m with everyone else. I think starting a baby savings fund is a great idea. I think shopping for any baby items (especially big ticket items–both cost-wise and size-wise) is a bad idea. I always tell people to think about how they’d feel looking at this stuff if they were having difficulty conceiving. Personally, it would make me more of a wreck. I started buying things in the 2nd trimester and still felt a little jinx-y.
Post # 10
I’m agreeing with the majority on this one! Save that money (great idea!) and make a “baby fund”. I am pregnant in the last week of my first trimester and have already changed the cribs/strollers/carseats/etc I want many times!
Post # 11
I agree, it’s very bad luck! It’s Jewish tradition to not have a shower until after the baby is born so you’re not jinxing it.
Plus, you just never know what’s going to happen. I was pregnant and during my first trimester cross stitched a baby blanket and bought my hubby a cute sports onsie for fathers day. My mom bought me a diaper bag with my name on it. Then I miscarried. Those things are in a box somewhere in the house, I made my husband hide it from me b/c I don’t want to look at it. Luckily it’s easy to hide so I don’t have that constant reminder. A room full of furniture isn’t.
I would just start saving money to buy things later instead.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t do it, either. You will change your mind, and what if you have twins or something…too many variables.
I think it is OK to start doing the product research, though. You could even build a registry under a different name to keep yourself organized, but I would probably just save things I liked to a spreadsheet on my computer.
I bought my furniture super early, but during the pregnancy…maybe 20 weeks? bc it was on sale. Now that kidlet is here, I would’ve picked something different, bc we are doing cloth diapering…that takes up more room than sposies, and I would’ve paid the extra to get a changer w/ drawers instead of shelves. It’s not a huge deal, but I just thought an example might make more sense than some general “don’t do it”.
I recommend getting baby bargains and start reading through it.
Post # 13
I don’t believe in jinxing something by being prepared, so if you won’t feel pressure by having it around/can get an amazing deal by buying ahead etc, I don’t see the harm actually. It all depends on you and how if will effect you!
Post # 14
I would just save the money and wait. I agree also with just doing some research and preparing yourself.
Also, I think once you start TTC, looking at an empty nursery will make it really hard if it doesn’t happen right away.
Post # 15
I think I’m going to echo a lot of other posters and say that buying before the stick even turns is definitely bad juju. Save the money, sure, but don’t make a concrete purchase.
Post # 16
I don’t believe it is bad luck but I still would not recommend it. Should anyhting go wrong with your attempt to get pregnant it could be a heartbreaking thing to have in your home.
Open a special account, save the money and have fun shopping later.