(Closed) Buying baby stuff before you're preggo – would you?

posted 7 years ago in TTC
Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

It seems a bit like counting your chickens (eggs?) before they hatch in my opinion. I would just wait. 

Post # 48
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Buzzing bee

I have experienced a miscarriage and having baby items around would have only made accepting my loss and moving on that much harder.

So, personally, I wouldn’t.

Post # 49
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If I see a deal on baby things, I buy them. There’s always baby shower so it’s nice to have a stash of things to just throw in there for presents and the rest will be our stock pile for our baby. Fiance always asks when I buy something, “so is that for so-so’s kid or ours?” lol Most of the stuff I give to family though because there are babies being born daily it feels like

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I bought so much stuff before we even started TTC. It ended up taking 8 months to get pregnant. Every month that went by when I was staring at a stark white test, I felt dumb/angry about/resentful of the piles of baby stuff that I had no use for. I actually had a box of baby things that I’d packed up my 8th month of trying that I was JUST about to take and dump in our stoarge facility just so they wouldn’t be a constant reminder, when we finally got our BFP.  I was under the assumption that it’d be easy to conceive since a year and a half before, we had an “oops” that ended up in a very devastating miscarriage. 

For your own sanity, I’d recommend waiting. It is so, so fun to look at/buy all the things until you are thinking that you may never have a use for them. Then it just really sucks. 🙁

 

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Fiance and I plan to TTC around June next year, I just bought a cot it was $100 in brand new condition off of my mothers friend who bought it for when her granddaughter visited but never used it.

At the moment I have a spare room and a “wedding” room which will later become our nursery. I dont really ever go in our spare room (seriously ever!) so the cot which has been pulled apart will just go in there until we find out that we are pregnant and want to set the nursery up.

 

Also I bought Fiance his present that I want to give him when i tell him that im pregnant, Its wrapped and in the drawer of our bed. 

Post # 52
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I totally understand what everyone means, but I think it’s your choice. That being said I haven’t done any purchasing of baby stuff. However, I do work at a Babies R Us – so when we have killer clearance deals it is hard to say no but I just don’t have room to store a bunch of extra stuff at this point. 

Post # 53
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@AbBeeRoad:  Absolutely not. Call it family tradition, but we don’t do baby showers. Some people might call it superstition, but we believe it’s bad luck. I’ve had enough friends who have had miscarriages (although most have been very early) and enough friends who have had issues getting pregnant.

While I myself have never been pregnant, I can’t imagine having a miscarriage and having all that baby stuff around the house to remind me of the baby that isn’t. Or… to have issues getting pregnant and have it remind me that I’m still not pregnant. I know for my friends who had trouble getting pregnant, just seeing other people with babies was SUPER difficult for them… imagine it being in your own house all the time, as a reminder.

Post # 54
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@oldmatron:  Same, I bought my hubby a sweet onsie that has our name on the back and says “Daddy’s Little Red Sox Fan” for when we find out.  It’s more of a symbol.  I wouldn’t buy anything that I would actually plan on using.

Post # 55
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@MrsRugbee:  +1 A family friend bought EVERYTHING (cot, pram, baby clothes..) VERY early on, and suffered a misscariage. It devestated her, and she couldn’t stand the thought of any future children using her first child’s things. Threw it all out. 

 

I am not going to buy anything for future babies, because, you never know what will happen.

Post # 56
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I bought one thing, just one. A 4-pack of Aden & Anais swaddle blankets. They are gender neutral. I bought one for a friend’s baby shower and had to have one for myself. I told my husband I wouldn’t go crazy and start stock piling stuff. My plan was to leave them unopened and stored away. However, one night my husband opened them up and swaddled a stuffed rabbit. It was the cutest thing ever! Melted my heart. 🙂 Now they are put up in the closet. I’m not superstitious at all. 

Post # 58
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I have. I’ve got cute unisex onsies. My Fiance even bought one. I dont really see the big deal.

My mom almost bought me a crib once. It was one of those usually really expensive round kind. The people were selling it for $100, with the bedding included. The only reason she didnt get it was because I told her I didnt have enough room for it. And she doesnt even want to be a grandma for another couple of years.

Holy crap. I just looked it up. The bedding alone that the crib came with costs $800! Shoulda bought it. XD

http://www.ababy.com/data/round-crib-bedding/round-crib-bedding-13948.html

Post # 59
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Bumble bee

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@MrsN14:  That’s really cute. My DH will look at baby shower presents and say, “but why aren’t those for our babies? We should keep that!” So cute.

Post # 60
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Busy bee

I wouldn’t but I know the lengths Fiance and I are eventually going to go to for a family, so I couldn’t stand having a constant reminder around me.

Post # 61
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

So… I have a crib and all it’s accesories sitting in our spare room right now. I bought that before we even started ttc, pretty soon after we got married. 

We are cloth diapering too and I think we will try to get our stash in hand well before. We are in our 3rd cycle ttc. Have had 1 early term miscarriage in the past. I have found having that crib comforting, no matter what we will have children one way or another

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