Post # 62
@AbBeeRoad: I think, if you can detatch the item(s) from being 100% for your baby, it can be okay. Consider them as things to just keep stashed away in case someone (you OR a friend/family member) gets pregnant.
I’m a knitter, and I’ve already made 2 newborn-sized sweaters, a hat, and a pair of booties. We’re not TTC yet (and probably won’t for another 2-3 years), but we’re at that age where all our friends & cousins are getting married & having babies. I already keep a stash of knitted dishtowels to grab for wedding presents, so I consider the knitted baby stuff in the same category. If I have a baby shower to go to, they’ll get wrapped up & gifted, but if they’re still around when/if I have a kid, that’s great too!
I’m trying to resist buying the yarn for and knitting a baby blanket out of that novelty pom-pom yarn. Stuff like that tends to get discontinued and I’m worried it won’t be there when/if I want it! And its one of those things I wouldn’t want to give away….
Post # 63
I would buy some things if you saw them super cheap. I have bought some baby items that I saw on sale and I figure there’s always someone having a baby shower so even if you do not use it for yourself you can always gift it! Good luck!
Post # 64
When we first started trying, I was buying a lot of baby stuff when I saw it on sale. I thought I would get pregnant right away. Here we are a year later and no baby. I returned some of the clothes because some of them were seasonal based on when I thought I would deliver. I have a gorgeous Coach diaper bag I bought on sale that has been sitting in a closet for a year. I might just give it away to a pregnant friend. It’s really depressing to have all that stuff and not get pregnant. At first I didn’t think any harm could come, but now that I realize it could be years until I get pregnant, if at all, I saw there was no point in getting that stuff and having it sit for years. If/when I get pregnant I’ll have 9 months to load up on stuff, I guess.
ETA I want to cloth diaper too and almost loaded up on a bunch that were on sale but I am glad I didn’t now. Who knows what kinds will be around by the time we do actually get pregnant. And if we never do, that would just suck to have it all around me as a constant sad reminder.
Post # 65
No need. You might hit an even better sale after the baby is born. You will never know. If you can’t guess whether something simple like a sale will happen again, then you can definitely not guess whether something so complicated like a baby will be made 9 months later.
I don’t even want to tell anyone that I am pregnant. Only close family and friends (and ppl who can obviously SEE me in person will know. lol!) But I won’t spread the news. I also don’t want a baby shower. I also do not plan to paint/decorate the nursery during pregnancy.
I am not being negative. I am just being me. I come from a culture where you don’t have nurseries for babies. Or even fancy baby beds, diaper tables, etc. I didn’t when I was a baby. Neither did my baby bro. And it didn’t make life anymore difficult for our mom to look after us. So I don’t feel the need to have anything before the baby comes. Your sister or mother picks up the essentials on the day the baby will come home from the hospital. Stuff like baby shampoo, blanket, diaper, nail clippers, booties, onsies, etc. (We do have baby showers but I just don’t want one.)