Buying bridesmaid dresses two years out??

posted 11 months ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
47201 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I can’t tell you what to do, but there’s no way I would buy a bridesmaid dress for a wedding that is almost 2 years away. Add in the fact that she wants your son for a ring bearer but is not permitting him, a member of the wedding party, to attend the reception, and I would be tempted to “get out now, while the getting s good”.

Post # 3
206 posts
Helper bee

jadeparcell5 :  Politely back down from the bridesmaid position and take your son out of the wedding. Bee, this is classic Bridezilla. It is completely unfair to expect you to pay for alterations or to make anyone buy a dress 2 years out while pregnant. Then having your son in the wedding but barred from the reception when you are not close to relatives? That’s insane. I’m having a child free wedding too but am making exceptions for those in the wedding. This is going to be 2 years of torment, back away now. If it ends your friendship, so be it. She sounds like a bad friend anyway.

Post # 4
44 posts
  • Wedding: June 2019

How confident are you that they won’t break up in 2 years?

Post # 5
1106 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

TBH I would step down from being a bridesmaid. Both with the bridesmaid dress and ring bearer issue, she is being completely unreasonable. I would worry more about taking care of your stress levels during the pregnancy than some dress that you are wearing in two years.

Post # 6
7435 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would refuse. So many things can happen in three years and the whole three sizes bigger thing sounds like absolute nonsense.

Is the dress she chose being discontinued?

Post # 7
6835 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Buying a bridesmaid dress 2 years out?! Even if you’re not pregnant that’s utterly preposterous.

Seems like your friend is just getting ready to go full on brideszilla crazy. I’d back out now. 

Post # 8
8449 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Yes, l have to add my voice to the chorus of withdraw now, rather than later. As pp above says , two years out is stupid anyway, let alone the nonsense about making you choose now while pregnant. 

Plus the demands about your son’s exclusion. And what, incidentally, will she expect you to do with your coming child, who will be 18 months or so by then? Just reread, your parents will have him/her and are thus expected to do all this with the little one in the car or hotel room etc. Stuff that OP. 

llevinso :  

Post # 9
170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I’d be out as a bridesmaid……. she sounds awful! jadeparcell5 :  

Post # 10
1129 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

If she wants you to have your dress 2 years out, she can pay for it!

Post # 12
12216 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I would tell her that on top of the price of the dress the possibility of expensive alterations won’t work for you. Regretfully, if you are not able to order a dress closer to the wedding, you will have to step down. 

Post # 13
321 posts
Helper bee

The whole buy the dress now (while your pregnant) and order it 3 sizes up makes no sense to me. In 2 yrs you won’t even be pregnant and most likely will be back to pre pregnancy weight or close not 3 sizes up from pregnancy size lol anyways she’s lying that the lady will yell if it’s not done by Christmas I’m sure it’s just a mix of her being a brideszilla and the sales lady being pushy. Plus since the wedding is kind of far i agree with everyone else it’s ridiculous to have your son part of the ceremony but be expected to be picked up after if the venue was close to where you live like 10 or 15 mins sure but over an hr hell no! Back out of the wedding you and your son ASAP that way she knows well in advanced 

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