Buying duplicates of favorite plush animal

posted 1 week ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I can see both sides, but learning to deal with loss is a very important lesson for a child and you may be delaying her development in that regard by delaying the inevitable loss.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

As that person who, as an adult, still broke into tears (I am blaming the fertility drugs that are making ridiculously emotional) when my parents said a treasured, irreplaceable toy from my childhood had been destroyed, I think it is totally logical. Yes, life means loss. But if it doesn’t have to be their favorite toy that is lost then I think that is okay. I think as long as buying a back up didn’t mean not paying for important things, which it sounds like it didn’t, I think it is totally ok. I wouldn’t do it with everything obviously but it sounds like this is the one major toy she loves most. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Something to consider from the child perspective. I had a lamb stuffed animal wearing a green and yellow flower wreath crown when I was a small child and I called her Lolly. She was a beloved friend and got very tattered from all the love I lavished on her. She had been sewn back together many times. One day my mother found the exact same stuffed animal and bought me a new one. But it wasn’t Lolly! No one could replace Lolly because she was so much more than just the stuffed animal by then.

So maybe if this happens now while her elephant is still in a similar state (no frayed fur or sewn bits) and your daughter is too young to notice it is ok to have elephant replacements standing by in the wings. But there will be a day when you can’t pass a new elephant off as her beloved friend. So I am with your husband on this one and think it was wasteful to buy 3 more elephants. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Bar Harbor Inn

I see both sides.  I know you want to protect her from emotional pain but I certainly would stop buying multiples at this one item.  You cannot protect her from everything and at some point she will need to learn that you go through loss in life.  Or even possibly learn why you put your things away.  It does seems a little much.  

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I don’t have kids, but I don’t think there is anything wrong with buying multiples.

The only thing I can think of that might be an issue is if you forget where you out the extras? I’ve done that before with dog toys, bought a bunch and then lost them later. Lol

So that is the only objection I can really think…

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

Id totally do the same. I don’t have kids but there was utter chaos the couple of times my nephews favorite toy got lost. He needed it to sleep so my poor sister had to turn the house upside down a few times. Having a backup would have been great! 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

pearlrose :  I’d do it.  Worst case scenario she realizes it’s not her toy (though it sounds like she already loves 2 versions of this toy without a problem) and if so you give it to your dogs.  $15 for a dog toy is a bit steep, but it’s still not a total waste of money is what I’m saying.

sable :  this sort of reminds me of a commercial (I forgot what for) where dad takes a brand new toy and runs over it, drags it behin the car, etc.. and then goes inside and is like “I found your lost toy!!” 

Gosh I wish I could remember what commerical this was–it had to be either for the car or for detergent.. somehow..

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I can understand getting 1 as a back-up, but yes, 3 seems like overkill.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’d buy a single backup, and one for where we commonly spend time. We had to do that with a white noise sheep my daughter loved. But we only have two.

Post # 12
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Newbee

I think it’s utterly ridiculous that people are saying a 15-month-old’s emotional development will be stunted if she doesn’t experience the loss of a beloved comfort object… come on, now.

Since she’s already willing to accept a second elephant (at your mom’s house), I think it was a good idea to get back-ups.  I suggest rotating them through immediately, though, so they all got broken in.  If you save the new ones until they’re needed – when she may be older – she’ll be more likely to reject them.  They won’t smell right!

 

The description of Lolly the lamb sounds just like a stuffed animal I had as a child.  🙂

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I’m so not the best person to ask about this, because I buy multiples of things for myself. How many times do you find a favorite jacket, pair of jeans, boots, whatever, only for it to be discontinued the next week/month/season? I have boots in my closet I’ve had for years and should the pair I wear ever “die,” well…..

DH thought I was nuts when we first started dating, until he found a sweater he was obsessed with. I bought a second one, put it away and didn’t tell him. Not even 2 months later,  sweater was ruined and he was not a happy person, until I pulled out the second one. Granted, he’d have to deal if something happened to that one, but he still has it today (years later).

It may sound insane, but I do this for one of our shepherds. She has a pillow pet dolphin she’s obsessed with, takes it to her bed every night, no other dog touches it, it’s just her thing. I find them fairly frequently at goodwill for like $2, so we have 2 put away should she rip it, or it dies in the washing machine (it’s happened). It makes her happy, and it’s no skin off my nose. 

If you find something you love, Murphy’s Law it’s going to disappear, lol. 

Long story short, no I don’t think you’re crazy. If it’s so easy to avoid a disaster, why not? If she’s outgrown it, you can donate them. No harm no foul, especially since it doesn’t hurt you financially to do so. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I don’t have kids yet, but am expecting my first in a few months. I also teach preschool. I haven’t seen parents have multiples of favourite stuffies (that I know of) but I do know some parents who had multiples of favourite blankets. I have also witnessed parents having to make a trip back to the school because of a forgotten toy or blanket that the child will not be able to sleep without.

I get that dealing with loss is a part of life, but I think that 15 months might be a bit young to comprehend. Even some of the 3-year-olds that I teach would have a difficult time dealing with it. 

No, I don’t think you are crazy!

 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter's Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

My nephew has a favourite stuffed toy and my brother and his wife bought three of them in total.  They get rotated, so they all get equal wear and are in roughly the same condition and it’s been a lifesaver for them on a few occasions where one has been left somewhere (daycare, grandparents house, friend’s place, wherever) and they can grab the next one out of the cupboard so my nephew will go to sleep (won’t sleep without it).  Seems wise to me!

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