Post # 1
My boyfriend and I were talking on the phone last night. Occasionally we’ll talk wedding ideas and things related to wedding and engagement (though not a whole lot, especially since he probably won’t propose until it’s toward the end of the year).
Anyway, he mentioned that he was going to buy the engagement ring – well, get my grandmother’s diamond put in a new setting for me – but also buy both his and my wedding bands. His reasoning is that he wants the rings to match. While I understand his reasoning and I don’t have a problem with it, I always thought most couples buy the rings together after the engagement? I’m wondering if anyone has ever heard of this before or if their SO did this?
The only thing is that he mentioned something about engravings. Obviously we won’t have a wedding date set until after we’re engaged, so he wouldn’t have them engraved at the time of purchase… but I imagine it is possible to have the wedding bands engraved after they’re bought? Jewelers do that, right? 🙂
Post # 2
People do this all the time. Some jewelers sell matched sets at a slight discount. It’s totally normal 🙂
Post # 3
My Fiance bought my E ring and wedding bands together bc they were a set and matched. It happens all the time. 🙂
Post # 4
My friend’s husband also bought both at the same time because it was a matching set, and also because he was afraid if he went back later to buy it the jeweler would no longer have it. He too bought his ring because he wanted them to coordinate. Sounds perfectly normal to me.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
It is very common to buy both the ering and wband together. The rings can be engraved at any moment.
Post # 6
My Fiance bought my engagement and wedding band at the same time (although he already knew what kind of both I liked). Now that we’re engaged we’re shopping for his wedding band since I want to buy it for him.
Post # 7
penguin8407: we bought my engagement ring and wedding band at the same time. Bought his about 6 months later.
Post # 8
Common if you want them to match or are having them custom made at same time (then you are not without your ring while they use your ring to make sure they fit together properly, and so on). Engraving can be done at ANY time so that is not a concern.
You may not want matching rings though – many don’t. And you may not want him to buy the wedding band at the same time, as many people do enjoy shopping for wedding bands together, or want some “say” in that process.
Post # 9
We bought all of ours (engagement and both of the wedding bands) at once as it was just easier to get them made in one hit rather than doing one then organising another. It also meant that we didn’t have to give the engagement ring back to the jeweller when my wedding band was made (to make sure they fit).
Post # 10
My husband bought my rings together. I really wanted them to match and if you buy a wedding set, you basically get the wedding band for free- it is a much better deal financially. I bought a wedding set that didn’t come with the center stone, and we bought that and put it in. However… we did go shopping for the rings together- it was just before we were engaged. We went shopping for his ring together after we were engaged, and I bought it. If you want them engraved you can get them engraved later- just keep in mind lots of bands can’t be engraved so pick one out that can if that is what you intend to do.
Post # 11
IVe heard of some people doing this but I think the majority of people go together later to pick their wedding bands. I wanted to pick my own wedding band so I’m glad my husband bought just the engagement ring at the time. Will you have any say in what he picks? You can easily buy ones that match after you get engaged.
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2015 - Ballroom
My Darling Husband purchased my wedding set with the engagement ring – e ring and two bands which are now soldered on each side of the e ring. I’m sure it was a better deal to do that, but his reasoning was more that the rings were made to be worn together, so there was no concern about “matching” a solitaire. We went to the same jeweler to pick out his wedding band afterwards. Our rings don’t match each other, but we both have rings that we love.
Post # 13
Thanks everyone for the responses! I guess I just never heard of anyone doing it before, which is why I asked! So glad to hear it’s not uncommon 🙂
And I told him his ring didn’t have to match my engagement/wedding band – one of my best friends has white gold, I think, for her set, and her husband got yellow gold because that’s what he preferred. I told my SO I didn’t want to be a bridezilla or anything, and his ring didn’t HAVE to match mine (since he will be wearing it – I want him to like it, just like I want to like my rings), but he doesn’t have a preference in what he liked. But he said he preferred if they all matched because of the symbolism of the two rings representing us, that we are a partnership and we go together… I can’t remember his wording, it was more elequent, but it was sweet!
Post # 14
I asked my Fiance to buy my band and ering together (they are a matching set but don’t have to be bought together either). They have antique etching and I knew it would be hard to match the two again. I told him I’d buy his ring. I think it’s a do what you like kind of situation!