(Closed) Buying for bridesmaids/flower girl vs pick your own X color

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Heck yeah it’s reasonable.. until I joined WB I had never in my life heard of the bride paying for the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses.. I wonder if it’s a regional thing? Where I live I’ve never heard of that.. so yeah, my girls are paying for their own dresses. I’m giving them different options at different prices & letting them decide as a group..

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church

Where are you from? In Canada and the US bridesmaids and flowergirls normally pay for their own dresses and accessories no matter how much you dicatate (specific dress and shoes vs giving colour and fabric guidelines vs just show up in clothes). I’ve heard that in England the bride pays for it all. So where are you? What you’re suggesting would be perfectly reasonable if you’re from North America (and probably other places, but I don’t know the rules in other places).

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

There are brides in USA that pay for the bms dresses…I’m one of them. It was just a decision that my Darling Husband and I made. We didn’t feel right asking our wedding party to spend $$$ on attire they wouldn’t have spent if they were a regular guest.

The rule we came up with was: if we require it, we pay for it. Applying that rule to your situation, you’re good to go. You’re only picking a color (which is reasonable since you’re not saying only dark blue shade # 1341) and the rest is up to them.

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church

@yellowshoe:  It’s true that some Canadian and American brides do choose pay for the dresses for whatever reason, but it’s not a requirement. In Englandand some places it’s a major faux pas to ask them to pay their own way.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

In the UK the Bride normally pays for them (I guess that is why over there you have smaller wedding parties!!) so although I now live in the USA I will be buying mine..

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