Buying for my girlfriend need advice

posted 2 weeks ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Helper bee

That sounds like a PERFECT proposal. Congrats on the upcoming engagement!

most people do not ask where the ring is from, they say “oh pretty” and move on so don’t worry to much about that. Idk to much about sapphire but I know you can get mossanite for pretty low cost and it will be a forever stone or a stone until she gets something else. That is an option as wel. 

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2021 - Australia

A lab diamond might be another option for you – they are significantly less than mined ones and are formed with exactly the same processes, just in a lab not in the ground. 

 

Also your engagement idea sounds lovely! congratulations!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

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@gemstoned:  Do you know that she’s ok with a white sapphire? What is the setting she wants? Lab diamonds are fairly reasonably priced, but it might help to compromise on a less elaborate setting.

Post # 5
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Worker bee

I’d consider a moissanite if you have $500 after the setting. They will have more sparkle, and are higher on the mohs scale than sapphire. What size center did you have in mind?

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I would definitely put feelers out and see if she’s ok with gemstones. White sapphires are pretty, but they can be lacking on that sparkle that diamonds have. If she’s ok with gemstones I would look into moissanite or lab diamonds even. Do you have pictures of the setting she likes? Maybe someone here can help you find other options within your budget?

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

I highly recommend going the custom route with someone like Tianyu or Starsgems or Provence. I am currently getting a custom ring from Tianyu. The 8x8mm cushion Moissanite is $130 and the platinum setting is $500, plus $30 shipping. Moissanite is by far my favorite stone. I would never get a diamond if I could get Moissanite.

You definitely don’t have to spend your max budget to get her dream ring! 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

Can you post her inspo ring? Would love to see what you’re looking for! 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

You can also go custom with someone who maybe able to make the setting for less, freeing up money for a diamond.  David klass is popular but his prices are sometimes really low and other times not so much.  It doesn’t hurt to try.  Also, search for some Etsy vendors.  Also, I would recommend toning down some of the setting elements that are contributing to the high price tag rather than sacrifice on the center stone.  If she’s ok with moissanite or sapphire, great.  But not everyone is.  Try to find out your girlfriend’s priories on which ring element she’s willing to budge on.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

If this is the setting you’re talking about, before tax it’s listed as $1780. Not sure if you’re including taxes and fees in your final costs estimates though  

I’d recommend looking at a moissanite or lab diamond. You can get a 1ct equivalent moissanite for around $500, or a 0.5 ct round lab diamond: https://www.cleanorigin.com/round-lab-created-diamond-4d1eadebf62c/

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Like PP’s, I also highly discourage white sapphire as they fall quite flat compared to moissanite and diamond, it really won’t “sparkle” even close to the same way. Lab diamond would be the best route for you if you think your gf cares about having a real diamond, but you’d still be limited to a small stone. Moissanite is actually more sparkly and much more affordable, but it’s not a diamond. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

i would think that setting could be done custom for less, and you could get a lab diamond or moissanite as the center stone to stay within budget. Sapphires are not as hard as diamonds or moissanite, so they will tend more toward getting scratches and chips. 

Did you your girlfriend say she wanted a sapphire? 

Post # 15
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Honey bee

Also, is there a specific reason why you’re going with platinum instead of white gold?  Does she have metal allergies?

Because otherwise, that’s an extra $500 freed up in your budget towards a stone.

I’m certainly not a “must be a diamond or look like a diamond” kind of gal and would be happy with a gemstone, but if I wanted a “white” stone I wouldn’t be happy with a white sapphire.  I just don’t like the way they perform in bigger sizes.  They are a decent substitute for very small side stones/pave (in fact, I have a ring coming using white sapphire for the very small point side stones in a ring because I didn’t care as much about the side stones and wanted to stay in a certain budget throwing my budget into the center stone).  But white sapphires tend to “glow” rather than sparkle and look dull and glassy at the slightest speck of dirt or natural oils – and the bigger the stone the more obvious that difference is.  If I were to get a gemstone in lieu of a diamond (lab or otherwise) or moissanite, then I’d rather just lean full in on the gemstone thing and get a colored gemstone I love (alexandrite, teal montana or peach sapphire, ruby) over a white sapphire.

So if you’re picking white sapphire because it’s her preferred stone, then by all means have at it.

If you’re picking white sapphire just because it’s a white stone in your budget, then I’d start getting more creative in your approach and either source a more affordable lab diamond or moissanite in your budget, consider gold over platinum, or start getting quotes for a custom ring or other similar settings that could possibly be done in your budget (not Jared or Kay’s – in addition to being overpriced for subpar product they also have horrid and misogynistic business practices).

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