(Closed) Buying Gifts On vs Off Registry?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Honey bee

We usually give money for the wedding. But for showers I ALWAYS buy off the registry. In this case, what if someone else gets them the lamp from their registry? Now they have 2 floor lamps when they only needed one.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I always gift off the registry to avoid duplicates and to make sure everything matches. If the lamp (or whatever item) they registered for matches other decor in their home or on their registry, a different may clash or not match the look them wanted.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I usually stick to the registry.  I can’t think of a wedding gift where I bought something different from the registry.  For a lingerie shower, I did buy off registry, but it was a new item, was the same size as registered items, was the colours I knew the bride would like and I made sure that it would be possible that she could return it.

I don’t have an issue with going off registry, if you know the couple would like it.  I just find it easier most of the time than coming up with something on my own!

Post # 6
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699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I usually go with registry items and build on them.  Now that I’m a bit older, able to afford more and have had a wedding, I may also consider giving cash.

I am extremely hesitant to go off registry… we got some odd things that I wouldn’t wish on anyone.  Especially as the people giving them thought they were doing so because we’d love them… and they’re relatives who would be super hurt if we told them our reaction was, “what were they thinking?!!!?!”

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I always get something off the registry. I figure they spent time picking things that they want, the least I can do is get something they ask for.  If I get something that isn’t on the registry, it’s usually in addition to something from the registry.

Post # 8
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

If we ever buy something that isn’t on the registry, it accompanies either something that was, or cash. I know my husband and I poured hours and hours into our registries. That’s not to say that non-registry gifts can’t be thoughtful and perfect, but there are definitely occasions when they don’t work out as well.

If you really know the couple, I’m sure you can gauge what’s appropriate!

Post # 9
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

@Bostongrl25:  That’s a great point about duplicates!

Post # 11
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2067 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I stick to the registry… I figure they registered for what they wanted… My Fiance and I did make a movie night basket for a friend who got married in the fall… Some of their favorite snacks and a movie they had been wanting… Plus money for a date night 

Post # 12
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2067 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I guess I usually do registry gift for the shower and cash for the wedding – Esp after realized how nice it was to get that cash for the wedding – a huge blessing

Post # 13
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3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’ve done both.  I like to buy from the registry but sometimes I either can’t, can’t find something I want to get them (I refuse to buy things I consider “disposable” like candles), or have something else I know they’ll love.

My best gift: when I was in college and broke, a very good friend of mine married the love of his life.  They registered at Walmart, where they met and both worked.  I went and found the pillows and bedding they registered for and bought yarn that matched it.  I crocheted them a blanket.  He said it was one of their favorite gifts, they were amazed that it matched so well, and they used it all the time.  It cost me less than $20 and 3 weeks of hard work but I like to think that they’ll use it for years. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

I always buy off the registry.  Or give cash.  If I do buy a physical gift, I always get a gift receipt…just in case! 

Post # 16
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10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

The only time I don’t purchase off the registry (for the shower, always cash for the wedding) is when I’m in the Bridal Party and then I normally throw together a gift basket or a more personalized gift. For just an average shower though, always a registry item.

The best off the registry gift I’ve ever given was to one of my best friends in which I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man and threw the whole shower. I made her gift bags that were labeled with “First comes love”, “Then comes marriage” & “And then reality sets in”.

“First comes love”: Nice picture frame with a picture of her and her (now) hubs when they were dating, 2 tickets to a local hockey game (their first date was at a hockey game) and some KY Yours and Mine (this was an inside joke – my friend mentioned that she wanted to try it like a million times). 

“Then comes marriage”: Sexy lingerie, a wedding day survival kit (a bunch of travel sized stuff in a small tool box that I decorated), a cute “Do Not Disturb” sign, gift certificate to the nail salon (she was broke and planning on doing her own nails for the wedding), a bottle of decent champagne and 2 glass champagne flutes.

“And then reality sets in…”: Flannel PJ’s, granny panties (these were comically large), rubber gloves, some cleaning supplies and a gigantic bottle of extra strength tylenol. 

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