(Closed) Buying My Own Engagment Ring

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

Couple of things:

(1)  Congratulations!

(2)  Why hold the negative views?  I doubt you’ll get flacked because your fiance is actively working on paying it off.  He’s not a deadbeat and he is trying–but slowly. That’s very admirable and I think not a lot of women here will complain about a man trying to work hard to get his love one a ring.

(3)  Is he okay with you paying it?  If you guys agree on your help, I don’t see the harm in you helping to pay for his ring. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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milanaangelica:  mmm I wouldn’t be okay with it but that’s me. If you’re fine with it then do your thing girl. Perhaps a new career field is in order for him to have more stable work. Best of luck!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Really it’s what you and fiancée are comfortable with. You can ask for others opinions but ultimately it’s your decision. I wouldn’t personally be ok with that because to me, the ring is a gift from SO when he asks me to marry him. But who cares what I or anyone else thinks? Do what’s best for you! Good luck!!!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. Some girls even split the cost of their ring. There will be many costs in the future that he’ll pay and you’ll pay so I don’t see it as a big deal at all. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I would be ok with it. My Darling Husband and I Poole our finances long before we got married. When it was time for him to buy my ering it was around my bday so he just said he was buying my bday gift. I think he used the money from my check because it was larger that pay period but we had our bills covered so I didn’t care. Do what feels right to you. Especially since you are getting married so soon, I would want to be wearing that ring too! Who cares where the money came from? Well the only people that matter here are how you and your Fiance and what the two of you think about it. Good luck!

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

It’s ok if your Fiance is ok with it. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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milanaangelica:  I kicked in for my ring. My husband had saved what he could, but we found a ring that was a little more than he had. Since I had a better job and savings, I asked if I could pay the difference. At first he didn’t like the idea, but the way I explained it was, we’re combining our money soon anyway so why does it matter? “WE” have enough for the ring, let’s get it. We’re celebrating our 19th anniversary this year so I guess it was ok. Best wishes.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Heh I paid for my own wedding band entirely by myself! Of course, it was $44 dollars..

The point is, there are as many ways to pay for rings as there are people to purchase rings. If something works for you, then roll with it…

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Your finances will be all co-mingled soon enough anyway. Might as well start now!!

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Some men egos are fragile. This may be something he want to do for you himself. You may hurt his feelings by even suggesting it. He may also be fine with it. You know your FH. How do you think he will take it?

Post # 14
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Helper bee

100% support you paying for it. As long as you are both comfortable then go for it, get your ring! Honestly,  you are combining lives and finances, no reason for that not to start now.

Post # 15
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862 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Date twins! Go ahead and buy your ring if that works for you! I paid the 20% deposit on my ring and my guy paid the rest. By that point we were halfway into using a joint bank account so I’d say we actually paid equal amounts.  Which is what I wanted anyway 🙂

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