BUYING my own ring …which one !?!

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I agree with 

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elderbee :  an engagement style ring will have people asking when the wedding is, which will be super awkward in your situation. If I were you I’d just get a band……or maybe a set of his and hers bands if we would wear one. I think that’s more common for people who are just sticking to a common-law marriage. I had a friend who wore an engagement ring but never set a wedding date and people had opinons about that, not that thier opinons really matter, but irritating opions are what you’re trying to avoid.

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2000

I personally think if you are going to go with the tacori you can find thim cheaper used now thats just me I have been married 18 years have 3 boys and have paid retail for jewelry but now I love bargain hunting ๐Ÿ˜‰

although get the ring because you love it not because people are butt heads ๐Ÿ˜†

Post # 18
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Busy bee

I have a Tacori wedding set…the prices are usually for the setting only. Make sure yours includes some type of center stone. Make sure it’s an authentic Tacori…there are a lot of fakes on ebay and etsy. Ask the seller if the card or receipt is included with the purchase. I do not see the Tacori stamp or 18kt/Plat stamp on the first ring. Double check to make sure it’s not “inspired”. I would really hate to see you get ripped off. 

On a side note..this is a very bad idea. You are living a married life with a man who is not. How are you going to explain this to your family friends and children? 

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@kdums2018, I love the second and third rings! Both are very classy and timeless. You should go with the one you love the most though! 

Have you told your bf that you plan to buy a ring? If so, is he ok with you spending money on one despite feeling him doing so is a waste of money? More importantly, are you ok not getting married because he doesn’t want to? As long as you are both happy and have a great relationship, that’s all that matters. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

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kdums2018 :  Hi Bee! I’m late commenting but I read your original post and follow up responses, and thought about it. Sure, you are a grown up woman who earns her money and needs no permission to buy herself a ring. But, from your posts, it sounds like you’re trying to get more comfortable around strangers and avoid weird judgemental looks. If I were in your shoes, I’d get a band instead of a ring. And not just some band – a kickass, over the top one. One that may look like a wedding band, but also an anniversary or commitment ring. So you will look “married” or “taken” depending on the social context. Engagement ring alone will send a weaker signal that a band, IMO. At least in the western world. I would leave the ering business to your man, whenever he’s ready to propose. When that happens, you could just wear the kickass band on your right hand. Just my 2 cents!

Post # 23
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Busy bee

I like the second one. I’m not a fan of the thick prongs on the first one. 

Post # 25
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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kdums2018: Have fun spoiling yourself! ๐Ÿ™‚ Be sure to post some pics with your ring after you get it! 

Post # 26
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Worker bee

I absolutely LOVE the 1st pic, the Tacori.

Its interesting to look at…has a nice design and is classic. I’d pick #1.

By The Way, good for you to buy your own ring. That shows confidence!!!

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

If you plan on buying a house soon he’s right. A couple grand on a ring is a waste of money you could put towards that house and getting it sooner. 

If you explicitly want one just so you don’t get funny looks from people that’s not worth a couple grand imo. Berricle sells lovely sets for much less. 

Post # 28
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Sugar bee

So after you lie and tell people that ask you’re engaged, what exactly are you planning to tell them when they ask how he proposed?

Why not buy yourself a nice RHR? 

Who cares what people think when they see you with 2 kids and no ring. But lying about an engagement is just messed up. 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee

 

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mrsaime :  I agree, pretending you’re engaged to try and stop people from judging you or thinking you’re a single mother is messed up. Lying about your relationship status will just lead to awkward situations and more lies. I think either wear a plain band as a sign of commitment (I’ve seen many unmarried women in serious relationships do this) buy the ring and get engaged or just wear it as a right hand ring. Wearing an engagement ring to trick people into thinking you’re engaged is not the answer.

Post # 30
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Sugar bee

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ariesscientist :  Agreed. Wearing a ring (band or otherwise) on your left hand ring finger and saying you’re committing to common law marriage or something to that effect will go much better for OP. Otherwise, she’s going to be lying about an engagement for years to come. And then when it really happens, she’ll have to tell people she was just lying to their face all these years? Eish.

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