BUYING my own ring …which one !?!

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

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mrsbluetomato :  I LOVE that first ring with the lovely milgrain!

Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

I could tell right away from your first post that you like the first ring the best, so I vote you should get that one.

And I say after having 2 kids, you deserve a gorgeous ring, whether it’s with his money or yours.

If I ever get divorced someday, which I hope never happens, I will still want to wear pretty rings.

I wear my ring for me, not so much for my husband. He never wears his ring and I doubt he’d care if I wore one.

Jewelry makes me happy, especially one special ring I wear.

If that ring makes you happy, I say go for it. Life is too short waiting for someone to get you a ring.

If you believe you are worth it, eventually he will see that too. But what really matters is what you believe about yourself.

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2021 - Glacier National Park-Montana

I think it was was wearing a ring “for show” it would just be a band.  But of course whatever works for you!

Post # 34
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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kdums2018 :  OP they are all lovely rings and you won’t go wrong with any of them.

The thing is that  wearing a ring on your wedding finger won’t make you feel better about a situation that you feel uncomfortable in. I’m married and some days I don’t wear my set. Wearing it or not wearing it doesn’t make me any less married or more married. I guarantee you that strangers in the street are not looking at you, your kids and your ringless finger and deducing your marital status. The people who know you already know your situation and a piece of bling  appearing on your finger will probably add to more questions on your relationship status from those who know you.

Get a gorgeous piece of bling but don’t get it to satisfy others. It will make you more uncomfortable in the long run as it will be a constant reminder because it sounds like you really want to be married to your partner and would do it today if he was on board. A wedding at the courthouse is cheaper than the ring you are looking at…so money isn’t the thing holding you back from being married legally. 

Post # 35
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Busy bee

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crystaleena :  It’s a gorgeous ring, but I  don’t think that looks authentic

Post # 36
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Helper bee

I totally understand. When i left my abusive husband (and took off my rings) id get comments on having children but not being married. Ive gotten several horrible comments. So bee… I get where you’re coming from. 

However… I agree with PP. It will only lead you down a path of lies. Its not an authentic engagement. People like friends and family will be very confused. If you want to get yourself some bling.. Go for it. But i dont think getting yourself a fake engagement ring is a good idea. Id personally not be with someone who didnt take my feelings about marriage seriously. 

After i got several awful comments… I did wear a very thin 1mm silver band at work. Just to keep comments, and guys from hitting on me away. It wasnt an engagement ring or wedding band. Just a plain band… That to me represented my commitment to myself and my children… Because i was not ready for a man… And needed to focus on myself and kiddos. 

Post # 37
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Worker bee

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janedoe27 :  Do you mean you think it is a fake Tacori?

Post # 38
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Bumble bee

My goodness! Some of these comments 🤔…

I love the idea of spoiling yourself with a great ring!! Especially after 2 babies! 

(I love the first one best.) 

Post # 41
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Helper bee

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kdums2018 :  this is sad. You are buying a ring to try to make light of a situation you wish were different. If you were happy with your arrangement you wouldn’t be looking for rings, dont settle if you want a marriage. You are just faking it with a ring.

Post # 42
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Blushing bee

If you are really just excited to get yourself a ring, then make it a right hand ring. It can be as fabulous as you want. Diamond or gemstone. Big or small. 

And leave your left hand empty for when he really proposes. 

And between the 3 choices you gave, they are all beautiful from pictures. But how will they look on your finger? I often find that a ring that I like does not look well on my hand, so I would make sure to try them first. That is if you really care to have a nice ring and not a whatever ring which main job is to tell others “I’m commited”. 

Post # 43
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Bumble bee

I love the Tacori one.  But if you want to buy a house, I’d use the money towards the down payment instead. That would be a more worthwhile investment. If you really want a ring to make yourself look “taken” I suggest getting a CZ ring or band like others suggested.  

Post # 44
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Busy bee

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kdums2018 :  Heh, good for you. Some people can be amazing partners but not see a point in legal marriage, so no shade on your guy from me. If you’re both happy, then good on you. 

I prefer the third solitaire, but with kids so young, I think you may find it cumbersome for daily wear. I think a kick-ass blingy band might be more practical. Have you tried on any rings in stores at all? You should do that first before making a purchase. 

Post # 45
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Busy bee

I like the last one! Very classic 🙂

PS – I’m mind blown that people get thousands of dollars in tax returns. I never end up getting money back from my federal – in fact, often I end up owing a few bucks.

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