Post # 1
My partner and I are getting married. I say partner because we’re kinda in a weird spot engagement wise, I have a promise ring but getting married has always been a maybe, he didn’t feel it was nessicary but I wanted to. But he “proposed” last night. We just kinda came to an agreement to get married. We own a house together and share finances we are basically married as is. But he said he’s not buying me a ring, because I already have one. I’m fine with him not buying me one but I still want a wedding band, would it be weird to buy it myself? He will not have a wedding ring, he dosent care for jewelry and would end up never wearing it anyways, I was going to figure something out as an alternative for him. Is buying my own wedding band a no-no?
Post # 2
I’m not sure if there is a right or wrong answer, but I picked out and bought my own. My Darling Husband spent a decent amount on my engagement ring and the wedding band I wanted (rose gold with diamonds) wasn’t exactly cheap so I paid for it.
Post # 3
There are no “rules” anymore. If you feel comfortable buying your own wedding band and your fiancé is fine with it, there is no reason not to do it.
Post # 4
Well, you share finances so it is coming out of the same pool of money anyway. Not sure why that would be a big deal.
Post # 5
I think it’s better to get it by your own, at least you know you’ll like the model 🙂
I’m all for women buying jewelries themselves.If you share finances it’s possibly a good idea to get him agree with the price though, just to avoid unnecessary fighting over it.
Do you guys plan on wedding ceremonies? You can still asks him to slip it on your finger during the ceremony.
About him not wearing ring, well, a lot of guys don’t because they can’t stand wearing rings at all. My father doesn’t . Prince William of England doesn’t. My boss’ husband doesn’t. My best friend doesn’t. It’s just preferences. 😀
Congratulations on the upcoming wedding bee!
Post # 6
I purchased both of our wedding bands so I think buying your own is perfectly fine.
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2019 - City, State
We bought each other engagement rings and I bought my own wedding band (he will buy his own too). Just do what works best for you! If he isn’t going to be offended either way, all you have to do is please yourself. 🙂
Post # 9
I think it’s fine. I bought my own wedding band and he bought his.
Post # 10
All of our money was combined after we got engaged, although I was working full time and Darling Husband was a student. So I guess you could argue I bought my own wedding band. Although we never thought of it that way, it was always “our” money, which is the same as your situation.
Post # 11
I bought both our wedding bands, it’s just how it went! Doesn’t bother me who buys it as long as some one does!
Post # 12
taykay : I think it will be better to get your own so You can get exactly what you like
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
It’s fine to get your own band.
Post # 14
I think it’s more than ok to buy your own ring. I find it a bit off putting though that the conversation where you decided to get married was followed by “but I’m not buying you a ring because you already have one”.
Post # 15
I bought my own wedding ring 🙂 Darling Husband didn’t even see it until the wedding day haha! He also bought his own wedding ring. Whatever works for you is the right way.