Post # 1
I need your advices once again please 🙂
I’m in the mood of buying myself a ring due to nice career jump and bonus. When visiting my local jeweller, instead of the subtle understated eternity ring I’ve been planning on getting online, I end up really wanting a bespoke solitary diamond ring. The diamond the jeweller showed me has beautiful colour and round cut, on a pretty settings (petal-like prongs), very simple and elegant, feels nice on my finger. 0.25 carat, and I have large fingers (actually around finger size 8.5 on US scale). Well within my budget for this purchase. To be worn on middle finger right hand.
It looks basically like the emblematic engagement ring in a glimpse.
Do you guys think that non e-ring solitary diamond ring is tacky…? I told my boyfriend this and he laughs it off, and he actually tells me to get it since I’ve been wanting a diamond ring for five years.
I’m also worried what people in the office will think, since we all just get our raises (we all have raise this time of the year). But I live in Paris and people in my office tends not to wear big diamond, if ever. I haven’t seen anyone in the office go beyond 0.5 carat even if they earn double than I do now, and are pretty well dressed. I see that most tend to wear small diamond e-rings, plain wedding band, or for some, huge rocks of fantasy gemstone (quartz etc) for fun in other fingers. But not much diamond and no one wear a solitaire non e-ring. It’s not a thing here.
The reason of my getting this ring, beside my wanting a nice birthstone ring (April-born) to celebrate my own independence, is that actually I don’t want my boyfriend to ever feel pressured buying me a huge ring or something that I want, especially ones he can’t afford. Or that he feels that he has to marry me soon or something. He earns much much less than me. I would be happy if it’s just a pretty twigs tied to my hand. I want to buy something I really want and can afford so that he doesn’t ever need to buy me anything he can’t afford.
Do you bees think that it’s tacky or weird?
If you don’t mind, please don’t hesitate to share me your story if ever you have ever decide to buy or not to buy a diamond ring for yourself.
Post # 2
You do you girl. If you love it, no other ppl’s opinions should matter!!
Post # 3
It’s not tacky at all! It’s only 0.25cts so it’s small and understated. I think it will look great! It’s on your middle finger on your right hand so it’s not anything like an engagement ring, it’s just a beautiful ring! I have a diamond ring (1/3 carat center Stone) on the same finger, no one has batted an eyelid and I thought nothing of it!
Post # 4
It is never tacky to buy yourself a diamond ring with your own hard earned money.
I have bought many diamonds and other gems over the years. Pendants, earrings, rings. If it is in your budget and makes you happy then do it. But then, admittedly when it comes to jewellery I am just plain weak…
Post # 5
Go with whatever suits you, bee. It is your money and your jewellery!
Post # 6
sparkle is sparkle my dear girl. congratulations on your promo and bling it out sister! the world always needs more bling.
Post # 7
Not tacky at all! You earned it!
Post # 8
You love it, you want it, you can afford it. All of the elements are there, Bee. It doesn’t matter if the ring is .25 carats or the Hope Diamond or anything in between.
What other people think is of no consequence whatsoever. Most of the time, people are preoccupied with their own stuff anyway.
Post # 10
So long as you explain to your boyfriend that this is not a hint that you want to get engaged soon and that you’re clear with him that if an engagement were to happen, that you don’t expect a bigger ring (if that’s not within his means). If .25ct is average for an engagement ring where you live, and you purchase one for yourself, it may take away from the sentimentality of receiving an engagement ring, especially if it doesn’t live up to your right hand ring.
However, as PPs noted, congrats on the raise and you go girl!!
Post # 11
Not tacky at all, and congrats on your raise. Go for it!
Post # 12
tinyelf : I don’t understand how this would be considered tacky. Tacky means tasteless, gaudy, cheap, vulgar. If anyone at work asks about it just say it’s your birthstone. Noone would think twice about someone wearing a gemstone solitaire. It’s just a ring. If you’re not shoving it in people’s face saying “check out my honkin diamond ya plebes!” then it’s not tacky.
Post # 13
I think you should go for it! That sounds dainty enough that it won’t be overly blingy or make anyone think the bonus went to your head, and it also doesn’t sound like it will draw too much attention.
I have bought myself several pieces of nice jewelry for career/life milestones, and have never regretted it.
Post # 14
Not tacky at all! I got a small diamond ring from my parents for passing exams at 16 and wore it on my middle finger for nearly 10 years until I got bored of it. Nobody ever mistook it for an engagement ring or even really commented on it. Slightly different from buying it myself but I would have if I’d wanted to, don’t worry about it at all! Now I have an engagement ring I often get comments on it, I think people do notice which finger you wear a ring on.
Post # 15
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
Sounds like something I would do. It could ages before I get an engagement ring. Especially since I’m proposing to him! I buy rings for my RH when I find things I like. Why wait for a man? Rock that rock!