(Closed) Buying the bride’s dress

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

go with whoever you want there! I went with my Maid/Matron of Honor and mom (fmil wasn’t interested) and when I picked it up I was with my officiant (longtime friend) and one groomsman (fabulous taste in dresses). You can invite anyone you would like there! I have seen it get out of control with tons of people!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

I think less is more when it comes to dress shopping. I took just my mom and older sister when I first went. Trust me, there were plenty of opinions. 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think you need to take some people you really trust, but not a huge group.  For me, i was able to make the final decision all by myself (it was easier without all of the people I took on my previousl trips), but that’s just me.  I think if you have 2-3 with you to help with the changing and opinions, that’s plenty.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I went all by myself with the intention of narrowing it down, then having my mom come along to help me finalize. It turns out I tried on a perfect one (on sale, 35% right now kind of a thing) so i sent her pictures via my phone, then walked out the door with it.

I couldn’t feasibly drag her along to every dress try on if i wanted to. She lives 5 hours away though. I was still trying to figure out what I wanted when I tried on magical dress number 10 or so. I wouldn’t want too many people there….only my mom would tell me honestly how the dress looked. I’d be concerned my friends would say it’s gorgeous b/c it is…but not necessarily be as honest with me as my mom. Or be jealous b/c I’M trying on the dress, not them. Some i tried on i loved…and she’d go, ‘hon your butt looks huge’ and it wasn’t cuz she was being rude, just b/c it was right there in her face. I’m in the same boat as you, though. I wouldn’t want an entourage…but if an entourage works for you, all the more power to you. It just wasn’t for me. I could be really decisive all by myself. I loved it or i hated it right away. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think it’s hard to go with a crowd because everyone may have different opinions. Not that I don’t recommend it, it’s probably something you should consider beforehand, though. I went with my mom and bridesmaids, but seperately. Future Mother-In-Law might make a trip with me as well.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

When I first got married, my mother and my aunts{2} went with me to a couple of places. Then I ended up picking our my dress all by myself at a store I went to on a whim. Didn’t end up wearing it anyway, so nobody ever saw it! We eloped, so I sold it back to the store. Now that we’re renewing our vows, I’m having a dress made and I am doing it all by myself with the help of the dress designer. It’ll be a surprise for everybody!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I really wanted to go shopping with my mom, but my parents were having alot of issues with one another and my mom ended up being across the country from me.

I ended up going with my Maid/Matron of Honor who is my cousin (but practically sister) and her opinion mattered as much as my moms would anyways. I also went with my best friend (who also happens to be my Fiance sister) I dont think I would have wanted more than that. It gets crowded, too many opinions, etc

I have since brought my mom and some other close friends/family to see my dress.

Its just who you feel will be able to help the most, and give you the best judgement, good or bad.

Good luck

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I really wanted to go with my mom, she is 800 miles away in Ohio right now. I went with a Bridesmaid. THen with my Future Mother-In-Law, next weekend I am going with my Future Sister-In-Law. I have tons of time, so I reeally want to get as many as I can on and see what the different styles of dress look like, There are as many dresses as their are brides.

Good Luck.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I just went with my mom and 2 sisters.  They know me and my style and tell me if something lookds good or bad, no judgement.  we had a great time and it went really fast. 2 hours and we were out with the dress ordered..  I think it really helped that they know me better than anyone so they were able to help out with they styles.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My first dress shopping trip is this Friday, and I’m definitely going by myself.  I don’t want others’ opinions to cloud my own.  I prefer shopping for anything by myself.  I’ll likely have my dress chosen by the time my mother visits from out of state, and I’ll take her along when I buy it so she can have that experience.

Post # 13
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Newbee

I think you should only bring 1 or 2 – the most important opinion for you.  The thing is — if you bring too many people, they will have their own opinions which can be very stressful.  So just bring someone who you would like to share the experience with like your mom or sister.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

I went with one of my BMs. Another friend who was in the area wanted to stop by so she was there too. Personally, I didn’t want a whole herd there because I usually know what I want (too many opinions is a hassle more than help). The only bummer was that my mom couldn’t be there.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I just went for fun and Like 3 people where there that i totally woudnt of wanted if i new i wouldnt found the dress. We where looking for fun and found the one lol.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Nobody because I got it off of eBay!

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