Post # 1
Has anyone done this BEFORE the wedding? I’ve been looking at our Crate and Barrel registry, and several items (that I want!) say “Order now. Quantities are limited.” And on top of that, most of the ones that say that are also “on sale,” which scares me even more and makes me think that they are definitely getting rid of the items.
So, is it crazy if I buy some of the things I really want? Our wedding isn’t until October, and my first shower isn’t for another 2 1/2 months, so I really don’t expect any gifts to be purchased in the near future. Also (this is what may make it weird), I would leave the items on the registry, but they would be “purchased.” I don’t want to receive something similar, so I figure this is the best way to do it.
Post # 3
If you don’t care about the surprise factor, can you just buy the gifts now and have family members reimburse you for them later? Your family members can still wrap up the gifts and give them to you at your shower. It saves your family members a trip to the store and guarantees you’ll get what you want.
Also, you can probably tell your closer family members what is going on…they might be willing to buy your gifts now.
Just some thoughts….
Post # 4
A LOT of our items were on sale and said quantities limited but I had no problem fullfilling our registry from C&B after the wedding. If you are really concerned you could call and ask.
Post # 5
I did this. Our linen set showed up as discontinued on the registry, so I went with my mom to BB&B to pick out another set, only to find the original one in the clearance bin. Mom went ahead and bought them on the spot. It was win-win. I got the linen set I wanted, and she got to pay 50% off!! 🙂 …. I’d do the same if you have close family and friends.
Also, often times they discontinue items, only to add something else extremely similiar. So it depends on what the item is. I could have always chosen different plates or a different blender. You may like them now, but they may come out with something else you love more.
Post # 6
@coffeegal85: good point! I like the idea of just telling them to choose things (and buy them sooner rather than later!) that say “quantities are limited.” That way I will be semi-surprised.
@Talishazwi: This makes me feel better. I have just read that other people have had issues (and one of my items is already no longer available. Luckily it’s something that can be easily replaced).
@vabride2011: Good point about loving the replacement item. Some of the items just seem so perfect, especially with the discounted price =)
Thanks for the advice! I’ll talk to my family to see if any of them would be interested in buying some items. However, I may give in and buy a few myself!
Post # 7
@krobbie: I was thinking the same thing about our C&B registry because some things said “Order Now, Quantities are Limited” immediately after we added them. With the exception of one item, all of them are still on there and have been listed that way since we registered in April.
It can’t hurt to call, but they do put that “Order Now” on things that may still be around for awhile. I just try to keep an eye on it, and I agree with the PP who said they usually add really similar things soon after unless they are seasonal items!
Post # 8
If no one gets the towels on our registry I will probably buy them myself. I really like them and we need new towels. I am holding out to see though since my wedding is this month.
I don’t see any problem with..its just like buying any random item 🙂
Post # 9
This post could have just been written by me. I am thinking about buying a couple of things off my registry now because they are on sale, but my wedding is not until October and I don’t even know if my family will throw me a shower.
The wine glasses are 50% off and buy one get one free. I feel I can’t let this deal pass by, but something about buying things off my own registry before the wedding or any shower makes me feel like a loser. What do you think?
Anyways, for my birthday I received a gift card from Macys, where I am registered and I’m planning to use it to buy the stuff on sale. So technically, the money didn’t come out of my pockets : -). That makes me feel better 😉
Post # 10
We didn’t have money to buy all that stuff, and I wasn’t that picky. If something went out of stock, I just picked out something else. But if that’s what you really want, I see nothing wrong with buying it.
Post # 11
I am thinking about the same thing. I had my bridal shower a few weeks ago and got a few items that I have meant to take off the registry b/c we had changed our minds or found something different. So we have some things to return and a few Gift certs. Macyi’s is have a huge sale on my china where I can be a serving bowl for free!! I’m really thinking about ordering some!
Post # 12
I would call the store just to see how limited the items are. They may just put it there to make you buy it now when in reality they could have thousands in stock.
Post # 13
I’m glad to see I’m not alone! I think I will probably call Crate and Barrel and ask how long they will have the items. For some reason I just assumed they would be vague and not really tell the truth (because they’d want me to buy the items now).
@Serendipity1174: Are the wine glasses from Macy’s? The only reason I ask is because Macy’s always has great sales. I think I read from another poster one time that their items are on sale 300 days out of the year. Hopefully your friends and family will know to shop at Macy’s during the sale! Then again, if you are more likely to get cash for your wedding, you might want to take advantage of the sale!
@Mrs. Cooper: Whenever I see my (not cheap) china on sale, I want to buy it!
@FireflyT: In your case I would definitely wait until after the wedding. I have a feeling we will have to (want to?) buy a lot of things we don’t get.
Post # 14
i did it!
someone sent me a macys giftcard and I used to to purchase items off out registry! I dont see why not…it guarentees you get something you want!
Post # 15
I’m buying stuff from our registry that’s on sale. See, I registered for our April engagement party. By summer a lot of the stuff we registered for went on sale – up to 50 percent. So I purchased a few things because it would be cheaper to purchase it on sale than after the wedding, which the stores give up 10 percent off. I left the regular priced items for people to purchase for the bridal shower. I see nothing wrong because it’s stuff you want and you might end up buying it anyway.
Post # 16
I didn’t do it, but I considered it when there were some awesome sales at Macy’s.
As a guest (even a family member), I can’t say I’d be thrilled to be told what to buy off your registry, and I certainly wouldn’t want to be asked to reimburse for something! If you really want something, why not just buy it? Just make sure you add stuff later if the registry starts running low.