Post # 1
So for a while I’ve been toying with the idea of buying myself a pretty ring…for my right hand of course. The department store I work at has a gorgeous created pink saphire and diamond ring in white gold that I can get for about 80% off its regular price and I am in love with it. However, I am a little worried about what my Boyfriend or Best Friend will think! I don’t want him to put off proposing for even longer because he thinks that this ring will satisfy me (don’t know if that makes sense, but hopefully you other waiting bees will understand). If I’m going to get it I need to do it this weekend in order to get the good deal. So I was thinking of getting it but then waiting to wear it until after Christmas or maybe New Years. If he doesn’t propose then I’d keep it and wear it and if he does then I would return it.
What do you all think? Have any of you bought a ring for yourself while waiting? I’d love to hear peoples thoughts on this!
Post # 3
Oh yeah, I thought I’d add that I want a colored gemstone engagement ring…so that adds to the dilema!
Post # 4
I did this back in the day. I had been waiting for two years, and I finally broke it off with Boyfriend or Best Friend. I went out and bought a peridot and diamond halo ring. It was a nice symbolic thing to do for myself, and I felt good knowing that even though he didnt propose, I could still wear diamonds. 😀
I don’t think he would be weirded out by this. It’s just jewelry. Now, if you bought yourself a diamond solitaire and wore it on your left hand, it might be a little different.
Post # 5
@EffieTrinket: Agreed. You’re not buying yourself an engagement ring.
Post # 6
I say buy it, he will propose when he is ready too and that will have nothing to do with the ring you bought yourself.
Post # 7
That’s not odd at all, I wear soooo many rings! Not just costume jewelry either, but often the real thing…gifts from family over the years, or that I bought myself. I can’t imagine why a RHR would signify that you “don’t need” an engagement ring 😉
Post # 8
Marrying someone isn’t about the ring so there’s no ‘well that ring should satisfy her for now’ mentality there. If you like the ring, get it! I bought myself plenty of jewelry when my man and I were dating and I never made a connection towards what I bought pushing back the proposal, neither did my huband (boytoy at the time). There is no dilema, you want a ring that you like and you should get it. You want a gemstone engagement ring, he should get it.
Post # 9
I guess part of the dilema for me in wonder what he would think is that I don’t really wear rings. I actually don’t wear much jewelry at all! That’s what makes me think that he might think it’s weird that I bought it for myself.
My other thought, of course, was that it might push him to finally end my waiting when he sees that I’m not waiting on him for a ring…I can do that for myself! 😉 I’m just waiting on him to finally be ready to make that everylasting commitment (I really couldn’t care less about the e-ring, it’s just a symbol).
Post # 10
@OneDayaSchafer: go for it. if your bf thinks you’re satisfied with a ring and puts off proposing because of it you guys have bigger issues to deal with. After all, a proposal is not just about getting a pretty ring – that’s the added bonus.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I bought myself rings all the time when I was “waiting” – I don’t think my bf ever really noticed. If he did, he certainly didn’t connect it with an engagement ring or lack thereof!
Post # 12
@OneDayaSchafer: buy it. then there will be something in your ring size (or very close to it, since you’re wearing it on your right hand, right???) lying around the house in case he ever needs that information 🙂
Post # 14
I bought myself an expensive (well at the time I thought it was expensive!) RHR when I was waiting for a proposal. It didn’t look like an e-ring though. Darling Husband thought it was a pretzel -_-
Post # 15
I think you should go for it! Wait until after New Years to wear it, but I would keep it even if he does propose. You can maybe wait a while until the new-ness of your e-ring wears off, but you can still have/buy things for yourself even when you are engaged! If you love it, get it for yourself 🙂
Good luck on the Holiday engagement, though!
Post # 16
@fingerscrossed: Haha! That is a good point.
@MrsWBS: That is so true! I intend to have a serious talk about everything soon. Its all just been hard to balance because we are living 2 1/2 hours apart right now and I think the holidays are making me a lunatic about the waiting!
Thanks everyone for making me feel better about doing this for myself!