By the age of 30

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 62
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Totally! Not only I’m not even enageged yet and I’m 27 but I wanted to have a first baby before turning 30… seems like not gonna happen. The clock iis ticking and I worry and stress out, we are getting older and older… and baby weight might not go away if you have a baby too late ;(

Post # 63
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Helper bee

Thirty was my “I want to be married and have my first kid by…” year becaaaause,

I will only have children if I am married. I want more than one child. And I don’t want to be near forty and having children still because I personally believe that it’s better to have children younger.

Post # 64
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m still young (22 in Sep) and I have a few “by 30” things I’d like to do. I’d like to pay off a house, be making 6 figures, and have 2 kids. Fairly achievable considering SO’s a lawyer and I’m in computers ๐Ÿ™‚

I’ve always said by 25 I’d like to be married. Assuming all goes to plan and we can get married next year, I’ll be 23. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 65
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@aithinne: Never heard this before. I was told 35 in that big NHS campaign a few years ago…

By 30, I wanted:

– To have a car DONE

– To have a house DONE

– To have a dog NOT DONE – but I do have three cats

– To have a career NOT DONE – still PhD and worried about it

– To have a child or be expecting – NOT DONE

– To be married – DONE IN 6 DAYS!

So that’s really only 50%. Meh. It’s still a pass, even if it’s not much of a pass, by degree examination standards.

Post # 66
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@mscuppycake:  I’ve skeedaddled way past 30 (am a month away from 35 now) so I’m not sure I’m your target responder here, but here goes:

Thirty was an exciting birthday for me, and I had been dating my FH for about four months — but I wasn’t pressured by peers for marriage at that point! I think it also depends on where you live — in New England today, marrying under 30 isn’t common, as most prioritize their careers and pursue higher education (even beyond bachelor’s degrees).

FH and I moved in together quickly (after seven months of dating) because it felt right, at which point settling down together began to feel imminent. But we didn’t rush into engagement – that came about 2.5 years later.

Thirty-five, however, is going to be a tough birthday for me because it’s the sudden realization that I’m five years away from 40 and I’m therefore approaching mid-life. But I’m successful in my career, my FH (who’s almost 36) is my rock and my best friend, and I don’t “feel” 35, if that makes sense. I’m told that I look and act much younger — so if I keep that in mind, I will make it through turning 35 without feeling down.

Re: fertility post-35: It does make me nervous, yes, with the up to 35% chance of miscarriage, but we’ll cross that bridge when we come to it. I know many over 35 who’ve conceived successfully.

Post # 68
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Blushing bee

Rather than 30 I set up all these expectations of myself for 25 – now that Im nearly 24 I have realised people generally dont have a great career, are married and a house by that age! Your only really just starting out.. woops Embarassed

Post # 69
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I always say I want at least one kid before I’m 30, but if I didn’t it wouldn’t matter that much. SO is 3 years older than me, so we take that into account when talking about having kids. We’ll be married in our mid 20’s, but we both want stable jobs, a house, and travel before kids so I guess those are our real goal before “30”. I wouldn’t want to rush life just because I turned 30. I think things happen as they happen and I think it is important to just to set life goals and see where those take you.

Post # 70
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Helper bee

I’m 25 and a few years ago never would have thought of thinking about the future as much, but one thing I’d like to have accomplished is to have a baby by the age of 30, it would be even better if I’d be pregnant/trying for #2 lol No pressure but I love kids, my mom had me at the age of 23 and she’s been asking what’s taking me so long already lol

that’s related to our relationship, as for my proffessional life, I’d like to be starting grad school, or already be in grad school but that heavily depends on money *sigh*

Post # 71
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

When I was younger (21-22) I had a deadline of being married by 25!  To be fair, I had been with my now Darling Husband since I was 19 so I guess that wasn’t too crazy.  Obviously things didn’t work out that way and I wasn’t engaged until 27, and got married at 28.  I have always seen 30 as the age when I either wanted to already have a child, or start trying to get pregnant.  Personally, I did not want to have a child without being married, so there was definitely a pressure there to “get things moving”.  

Post # 72
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I always wanted to be engaged by 30 (I was 29) which I’m happy ended up happening for me ๐Ÿ™‚ I was also happy that I got married and was still 30! I plan now to have a baby by 35 if that doesnt happen then I’m going to be fine with that and live my life

Post # 73
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Buzzing bee

I’m 21 (22 in 3 months) and I have a list of things I want to achieve by the time I celebrate my 30th birthday – most of these things will be achieved well before I turn 30 (like getting married and buying a house) and the ‘goal age’ for them is somewhere from 23 to 20, but I have two things are from now to 30:

    1. Earn a 6 figure salary
    2. Travel to 30 countries –  ’30 by 30′

    Post # 74
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    By the time I’m 30, I’d like to be a wife, mother, and first grade teacher/substitute teacher. It seems perfect that way to me, but God may have other plans for me. I just have to trust in Him and listen to Him every step of the way, and He’ll lead me to where I’m supposed to be and who I’m supposed to become ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m 18, so 30 feels pretty far into the future from now. 

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