Post # 16
I have to be on there for work, I run the social media for the company I work for. My personal FB I have very few friends, and have a strict “funny stuff only” policy. My mom, my daughter, and my boss are all on there, no drama allowed!
Post # 17
My Fiance and I never had any type of social media and never will. I personally don’t care to keep up with anyone is doing. I also find it weird that people who have social media sort of “live on the internet” versus living in real life. That stuff has people obsessed and they are so wrapped up into it. My FI’s friend was like, “Dang bro you don’t have any social media pages. What do you and Sweetloveaj do inside all day?!” Is that not the funniest thing ever. LOL My Fiance, was like um we actually interact with each other unlike you and your wife 😂
Post # 18
I have facebook, but it is to keep in touch with family and see pics of their kids and events and things. I purged my friends list from 440 to in the 300’s a couple years ago, and two weeks ago I purged it down to 65 people. All of which I am either close to or are family and friends I live long distance from and like seeing their updates. I don’t post anything but I do use it for organizing evetns, super easy to keep track of wo is coming and bringing what etc.
Post # 19
lolita1027: I had a FB account from 2004-2014. I gave myself ten years and yanked the chain. I also scrubbed myself from the Internet and the only way to find anything on me (outside of in obits.) is to use my full name and it’s all my research papers. I do have instagram but I don’t take it seriously and typically post my nails, pretty sunsets, and my dogs.
Do I miss FB? As much as I miss Myspace. So, nope. Funny thing is I run social media for my clients and my M.A. thesis addressed social media as a means for social movements to raise consciousness of the public. I still stay abreast of best practices and etc, but am happy I’m not on it.
You’ll be fine and enjoy not being plugged in. Plus, rarely will you say I wonder what so and so is doing… because if they haven’t reached out to you then you really won’t care about them… sorry but not sorry to say so…
Post # 20
Facebook makes me hate friends and family, lol.
Seeing all the dumb stuff people Like or Share. No thanks.
Post # 21
lolita1027: good for you! I came off last year and have not looked back! I enjoy catching up with people in person, the way it should be 🙂
Post # 22
Haven’t been on Facebook on years Instagram is my only social media now. I love not being on Facebook I know what I’m like and I find it hard to hold my tongue on times so I know Facebook isn’t for me also I have some stalking issues so I try and limit my personal stuff online. Im not a stalker btw lol
Post # 23
about 95% of my instagram usage (both subscribing and contributing) is for art only. so it’s like my sacred place that feels relatively untouched by the world of stupid. but I fear that will get ruined in a few years.
yeah, facebook is showing its age, but I still have enough decent friends that make it worthwhile for me. you just have to know how to control your feed. unfollowing/hiding stupid people helps a lot. I also block a lot of people from seeing my posts so I don’t have to endure their dumb comments. but yeah, I totally understand why more people are leaving FB. it’s getting pretty tedious.
Post # 24
mrspereira: I am extremely impressed that you don’t have a cell phone!!!! I’ve wondered what that life would be like in these times…everyone assumes you have a cell and that you should always be available to answer your phone at the drop of a hat. How has that experience been for you? Does it affect your professional life that you are not always contactable?
Post # 25
If your friends list isn’t full of insufferable a-holes, social media is really rewarding. It can be hard to curate but it really works best if you narrow it down to people who truly matter to you. It is a tool that merely reflects what you put into it. Enjoy your hiatus, better luck next time 🙂
Post # 25
lolita1027: Yup! Welcome to the ‘off the grid’ club!
I was a FB addict but went off it when I started getting cyber bullied by a bunch of friends. I realized what was going on and I deleted my account so the nasty people wouldn’t have any material to make fun of anymore. And then they even cyber bullied me for that. Posting all about me. The true colours really came out – they really got personal. Unfortunately – I think FB is very competitive and for people that let it, it can become a real fuel for bad behaviour like jealousy and gossip. Plus people are very quick to say things to a screen that you would never say to a person standing in front of you.
I ended up never going back – now I’m not on ANY source of soical media and I also enjoy as you said being ‘invisible’. It’s actually completely refreshing. I’m very guarded now, I don’t even want people knowing my business. It’s definitely socially isolating – but if you’ve reached that point where you don’t care about that then it’s wonderfully liberating. When people talk about facebook I cringe. It’s so fake I can’t stand it. I used to think that if I didn’t post it it ‘didnt’ happen’ , there was that feeling anyway, you know, I just had to get recognition for everything – now I realize how shallow that was and I enjoy my life experiences so much more now because they aren’t being served up on a big old silver platter for the masses to judge. They’re just for me.
I’ve actually gone back a few times and scrolled through, and it’s just always the same old thing…like literally a year will go by and I’ll go on to see what’s up…. and so and so is still just posting dessert recipies, so and so is still posting about her financial woes, so and so is still in a custody battle, so and so is still posting about her weight loss battle…I literally haven’t missed a thing.
Post # 26
lolita1027: Yes! This!!! My life has been 1000x happier, healthier and better for coming off of Facebook a few months ago. I haven’t come off instagram yet as it never gave me the same anxiety as FB, but I am actually considering quitting that too.
Facebook made me feel like everything I did was being judged. It probably wasn’t even true, but I got so anxious about seeking people’s approval and I hated it. I actually went through a really hard time about 5 years ago where as a young and foolish 18 year old, I let my hurt and anger play out on social media. To this day, I cringe at the thought of it.
Haven’t missed it, won’t go back to it. I realised the people who care about me find other ways to communicate, everyone else is just background noise.
Post # 27
greaselightning: Wow, you took the words right out of my mouth. I absolutely share your feelings about this, I’m a super private person now!
Post # 28
I’m not on FB very often, and I’ve never had a twitter account. I do use instagram, but mostly to help find homes for the animals at the shelter where I volunteer.
Post # 29
That’s really admirable that you’re removing yourself from social media!
I stick around on social media to keep up with my friends, family, and favorite artists I follow, but I did take Facebook off of my phone because I was spending way too much time on it. I’d like to think one day that I’ll go completely off the grid too, but I’ll probably just continue to pare down being online instead.