Post # 16
I’ve had 2 sections (one emergency, one scheduled) and I’m having a third in July. Standard practice at my hospital (and I believe most in the US) is to keep the partners out of the OR until you’re draped (epidural already administered, curtain up, essentially/ just your head out) and then let them in. He’ll be ushered to a seat by your head, and the only thing he’ll see is your face, and your baby when they lift him/her up and then bring the baby around for the pediatrician to give him is apgar and exam. Then they can hand him the baby. So honestly/ if he’s not into needles, he can totally avoid all of it. Oddly, we’re in the other camp- my husband is a physician and scrubbed in on my last c section- which was kind of odd for me, but he loved being right in the thick of it. To each his own I guess. Happy delivery!
Post # 17
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splishsplash : so this is different. I honestly think he may be better off only being in there when the baby comes out if he is THAT bad in medical situations. They can’t afford to be dealing with a fainted spouse when they need to be worried about you and the baby. They don’t allow the support person in until the spinal is placed and the curtain is up, in my past experience of 3 csections in the United States. I’m having my 4th csection in 3 weeks.
I know you’re being empathetic towards him and that is genuinely loving of you. My husband is a combat veteran and nothing phases him. Our first child was an emergency csection and I was put under general for it. He snuck into the observation room to watch and make sure we were ok. lol The man has seen my intestines, haha. I would be sad if he wasn’t next to me during it all because he always rubs my face and talks to me. I hope you figure out something that works for you both.
Post # 18
Your husband sounds exactly like mine! He gets white as a sheet if you even TALK about needles. I was so nervous about his ability to cope during my birth, but he surprised me and totally rose to the occasion. In retrospect, I did not give him enough credit. He kept telling me he would be ok, but I’d seen him nearly pass out around needles before and did not have that confidence. I did not have a csection, but I did get an epidural, and he stayed in the room and held my hand through it. This is a man that previously would literally leave the room if anyone even MENTIONED the word “needle” – his phobia is that bad. He also watched the birth and cut the cord!
I think there’s a good chance your husband will surprise you and be ok. But if you are both worried, one thing to consider is hiring a doula. They can be a great help for any type of birth, including csections. Part of their job is to help your support person too.