(Closed) Cabin Wedding/Guest Room question

posted 8 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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348 posts
Helper bee

I voted yes, and am doing something similar, but I think there’s one big caveat: you can’t REQUIRE in any way that your guests pay for a cabin room.  In our case, there’s an option to camp out for free (all our guests are young/spry enough that it’s a realistic option, except for the three women who got pregnant between when we booked and now…but they don’t seem to care).  It would also be find if there are a range of other hotels they could choose from if they don’t want to stay in the cabins, which would be true on the Cape.

If you’re worried about the reaction from friends/family, this could be something for a bridesmaid to help organize…she could send out an email to everyone just saying, “hey, we’re organizing a group cabin rental for the weekend of the wedding, let us know by XX date if you are interested in getting a room.”  That way no one would feel pressured at all by you.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ok we did this exact same thing! One, my family paid for the cabin so everyone could stay there, roomed about 13 at the most. But if anyone wanted to stay in their own place they footed the bill. Had it not been for my wonderful family and that generous gift, our guests knew that we would have done our best to put forth our best effort to cover some if not most and then they chip in the rest. That is just how we roll. In fact, our next wedding option was going to be the Outer Banks and it would have been the same thing–We would cover so much if not all and here is what you get for this price should you want to join us. Renting a cabin togethor as a group is much different than hotels and such and people know that. We could all drink, eat and be marry there and no one would have to drive or taxi anywhere else. It is more convient and guest know that.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It sounds like you’re trying to plan a wedding exactly like mine.  We’re renting a cabin that sleeps 20 people and having a bbq reception.  The ceremony and reception will be outside on the grounds around the cabin.

We’ve invited our close friends to stay with us in the cabin and are not asking them to pay us anything.  The way we look at it, if we rented a different type of venue that didn’t have sleeping accommodations we’d be footing the bill entirely, so why would that change just because our venue has beds? 

I’m not trying to judge anyone who has asked people to contribute toward the costs of the cabin.  Just trying to explain our approach.  I don’t know your financial situation, but for us we can afford the cabin rental on our own without having to ask for money.  I think if we couldn’t afford it on our own we probably wouldn’t have gone with this venue.  For me, asking people to help pay for our venue is out of the question.  We make more money than most of our friends and family, so I don’t even want to go there.

Post # 7
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348 posts
Helper bee

One more thing: the logistics can be complicated – you either need to wait and reserve the cabin after you find out how many people are interested in staying in one, or go ahead and commit to reserving one before you know whether you will actually have that many guests who want to stay there.  

If you’re worried about ettiquette, you can think about paying for part of the rental yourselves – kind of the equivalent of paying a venue fee for your use of the common spaces of the cabin for the wedding events, so that your guests don’t feel like they’re paying for your site rental.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think it is all in how you approach it. For us, it was never an ettiqute issue. If we did a house in OBX people were going to make a vacation out of it and it was cheaper for MY GUESTS to actually share a house with everyone then do things individually. Plus we all wanted to party togethor, so we wanted to stay togethor. We did not get married at the cabin, so even though they did not pay, they would not have been paying for our venue but for their room. Like I said they had other options, but splitting a cabin among a group is much cheaper for everyone around. I think you will find more people for it then against it.

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