Post # 1
I originally wanted to have hors d’oeuvres & Cake reception.
My reception place is going to be in the room next to the chapel I will be getting married at.
I wanted to have a wedding on Saturday but there have been miscommunication between the people from church and myself when deciding the day, so We moved it to Friday evening. So there is no changing day of the wedding…. 🙁
The problem is that we are on a very TIGHT budget and cannot afford the have hors d’oeuvres anymore. So that means cake and punch reception.
The reception room has carpet and the rule is not to have anything that is red or that can dye the color of the carpet if spilled/dropped. We are thinking coffee to substitute the punch since it would be in the evening.
We also have to be out before 10:00pm probably 9:30pm….
So my schedule is
Ceremony at 7:30pm
reception at 8:00pm or 8:15pm depending on when the ceremony will be over.
Bride&Groom leave at 9:30pm
We are not going to have a long reception but I am still concerned that we are kind of cutting close to the dinner time and I feel really bad for the people who work and they usually get off aroudn 5:00pm and since the wedding is on Friday, the traffic would be HORRIBLE! I am just soooo worried about people’s reaction when they are told that they are only going to have cake and punch (Coffee) at the reception.
Also my family does not have any relatives in US so we are inviting my parent’s friends. and my parents think that having cake and punch at the reception is almost an insult(Cultural difference).
My FI’s from Texas and so does his family. His grandparents also had cake and punch wedding and they said it was all like that back in the days…
So what I am saying is, would it be okay to have cake and punch reception that starts at 8:00pm on Friday?(Ceremony starts at 7:30pm) It would be in Houston, Texas, and anyone who lives in Houston knows how horrible the traffic is around 5pm…..
Please share your opinion with me!!
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
It’s the appropriate time for a cake and punch reception. Just make sure to make it clear on the invitations that cake and punch will be served following the ceremony so guests will know not to expect dinner.
Post # 4
It would be fine for me – as long as it said “Followed by a Dessert Reception” or something like that, I would understand I needed to eat something before I came. 7:30 is late enough that you could grab something quickly even if you needed to drive through on your way to the wedding.
Just be overly clear, maybe on an insert card PLUS word of mouth. The problems most people run into are due to unclear expectations, not their actual choices.
Post # 5
I agree with the PPs. Absolutely it’s fine! 8pm is late for dinner anyway. If I was going to a wedding that started at 7:30, I’d drive through for dinner on my way there. Make it clear on the invitation that it will be dessert only and it will be fine!
Post # 6
Seems to me that you are making things very clear. For me, if I had something that said, “Cake and Coffee reception to follow,” I would assume you meant cake and coffee. I would then eat before I left home.
Post # 7
The timing is fine—just make it clear on the reception. Even if it is a slight inconvenience, guests who truly care for you will be happy and thrilled to join you on the day!
Post # 8
I think you’re fine! Just be sure the invitation makes it clear that it’s just cake not a meal. Also, as a note, coffee can stain pretty bad – are you sure it’s allowed? You could also do a lighter colored punch with like orange sherbert and 7 Up. Or just sodas. Or lemonade.
Post # 9
As long as you make things clear (that there won’t be food served), it should be fine. People who are important to you will probably leave work a bit early to grab something to eat and make sure they have time to change and get over there.
I would suggest having something other than coffee- I personally don’t like to drink coffee in the evening, even decaf. Maybe lemonade, or if you can DIY it within your budget restrictions, an Italian soda bar could be really fun and would dress up your reception and make it a little more unique and interactive. I think it would be pretty budget friendly- syrups aren’t too expensive and you would just need a ton of club soda and straws. Plus, everyone walking around with cute glasses and stripey straws would look awesome in pictures- just don’t pick the bright red syrups- or whatever color your venue restricts. Check out this link for pics- it could be really cute.
Post # 10
I say go for it! Just be sure to state it on your invitations. 🙂 Good Luck!
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
Ugghhh god Houston traffic is awful at that time! Honestly though, these days people eat on the go. It’s so easy to get a sandwich or smoothie or fast food on the road, that your guests will be fine as long as you let them know in advance.
I understand the cultural difference thing too, my husband’s family is Persian and in their culture, all parties and weddings are BIG and extravagant. We haven’t been able to afford extravagant parties, though, and no one has ever complained – at the end of the day, everyone is happy for us that we’ve found each other. I think you’ll be surrounded by love on your big day, and a cake and punch reception will be fab. C’mon, who doesn’t love cake?
Post # 12
Personally I think the time is too close. As a guest I have to get ready & add travel time. I probably would end up not eating dinner & going to your ceremony starving. If you decide to go this route make sure your guest know beforehand.
Post # 13
I just told one of my bridesmaids and she says it is kinda awful spending close to $200 for her to get the bridesmaids dress and only be attending to a wedding like this. I am so upset and disappointed… 🙁 seems like people around me are not liking this idea. It just sucks not being able to please everyone around me!
Post # 14
I think its fine although, I do think you could pull of apps for really cheap.Have you checked Costco or Sams Club?I agree with yoir bridesmaid that 200 is a lot for a dress.If you are having a budget wedding, you should be mindful of your bridesmaids budgets also.Good luck!