(Closed) Cake and Punch Reception

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

I think if you’re going to have your wedding on a Thursday in the early afternoon hours, you may need to give people more than two weeks notice. It will also help to have more time in case people miss the initial email and you need to follow up with them. I’d also inform them that it’s a cake and punch reception so they aren’t expecting a meal or apps. Also maybe offer a third drink option like ice tea, coffee, tea, or juice, or punch. Other than that I think it sounds well organized.

I’ve never been to a cake and punch reception myself but I think they’re fine as long as guests are given a heads up.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

I think it all sounds lovely. ๐Ÿ™‚

I agree you may want more notice if you are asking people to take time off work.

mentioning cake and punch reception immediately to follow is plenty to let people know, especially with the context of the time of day.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

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bluecutie00 :  that sounds good to me. Although I would highly recommend some sort of chairs, seating area. You don’t need a lot, but at least have some. I’m a healthy individual who stands on my feet 8 hours a day but when I’m in dress shoes, I’ll need to sit down. 

I also agree with PP about more than 2 weeks notice. Both DH and I wouldn’t be able to attend with such short notice. At least 1 month would be courteous.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I get that you’re keeping the guest list very very small, only closest friends and family, but there is still something off-putting about asking someone to take off work on a Thursday to witness your wedding,but not sharing a celebratory meal with them.  If nobody would be working anyway— like a summer day with lots of teachers on the guest list, or a weekday when all the guests are bartenders– it’s not as big a deal, but it’s a big ask when it involves someone missing a half-day’s pay or leave allowance.  Consider what you are asking the guests to give up; if you need to move it to a weekend to prevent anyone from having to miss work, then do that; or consider changing your dinner plans to include all of your guests, even if you can’t feed them lobster.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

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bluecutie00 :  I agree with the PP about giving more notice. I saw you’re planning on calling people, will you invite them then? Our schedules are typically made about 2.5 weeks in advance and while my boss is usually flexible, sometimes we are just too busy to take unexpected time off.

I do think it would be nice to have seating. Maybe ask a few people to bring chairs so you have 20 or so spots? Due to some back issues I simply would not be comfortable standing for 2 hours.

It sounds like it will be a lovely afternoon, I love your choice of colors!

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

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bluecutie00 :  I think it sounds wonderful, except as PPs have mentioned — it might be hard to take a day off work with less than 2 weeks notice. Also, I can easily go 2 weeks without checking my personal email. It’s 95% junk so I don’t check it often. I recommend following up to make sure people get the invites. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek

I didn’t read all of your plans, but I think the cake and punch reception (and mentioning that on the invitations) is a good idea!

Also, I think you should give more than 2 weeks’ notice. My Fiance and I sent out electronic STDs via Paperless Post 6 months before our wedding, and that worked well because we could see who had opened it and who hadn’t and follow up with people as needed; everyone had seen it within a month (another reason why 2 weeks might not work). We purchased invitations from Paperless Post, as well, and will be sending those out 3 months prior. The majority of our guests are not local, so I want to make sure they have plenty of notice. If you’re sending only invitations, I would send them at least 3 months before the wedding. If you’re sending STDs and invitations, then maybe 2 weeks is fine.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Maybe I missed it but may I ask why you want it to be on a Thursday, in the middle of the day, for a two hour event? 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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bluecutie00 :  Unless I missed it, you didn’t mention an officiant.  Have you chosen one yet?  

Post # 14
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Busy bee

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bluecutie00 :  only you know your situation and guests and therefore what is appropriate, but I would associate a cake reception with a Sunday morning or similar. I think if you are asking people to take a day off work it would be better to have a meal, particularly as you’ve said money is not the reason for the cake reception. Also I’m not sure what a ‘pop up wedding’ really means but you should consider inviting them with more than 2 weeks notice.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

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bluecutie00 :  It is never against etiquette to serve a full meal at an off-hour. You can easily add enough food to make a proper meal and make your guests feel that they’ve been recieved in a manner than befits the occasion and their efforts. 

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