This certainly gives me and the Fiance something to talk over.
Although we do have a budget which is impacting our decision (i.e. we’d love to invite a couple of our aunts and uncles, but won’t be able to invite them all to a full meal and don’t want any consternation over who gets an invite or not– I have a big family), a lot of the decision is trying to balance getting to celebrate with family and allowing my grandparents, who have graciously offered their home and property for the ceremony, to invite the family that they feel are important to share the day with . . . all without completely overwhelming my Fiance, myself, and our budget.
Fiance has a much smaller family and isn’t big on crowds, and I have a heart condition which means I have to limit the time I spend standing, which means we can either manage a larger reception, but to keep it short and sweet and mostly be about enjoying the beautiful scenery at our venue and mingling with guests while we snack, or we will likely have to keep it very intimate with the added logistics and stress of planning a more involved reception.
Since most of the guests are family, we figured most of them who are traveling will get together with the local family and visit and eat together on there own terms, especially since my aunts and uncles that aren’t local are mostly retired and can travel at their own convenience. Of course, we wouldn’t be offended if people weren’t able to make it, but we’d like to think that anyone we invite would like to come if they can swing it, wether we spend $30 bucks on dinner for them or not.
I don’t want anyone to think we don’t value them, or that we are cheap, ect. We realize that traveling isn’t always the easiest, especially for our friends and some of our younger relatives that have the added expenses and time constraints of being on tight budgets or having young children themselves.
I suppose either way it will work out and is more of a personal decision based on what the Fiance thinks, and I might do some more asking around my immediate family as well. I just wanted to make sure that I wasn’t going down a road and getting excited about having more of our love ones around if it was something that could be percieved as poor manners or might make our guests feel slighted.
We’d definitely indicate it on the invites, have the reception at an off hour, and are keeping things simple and low-budget as far as things like the dress and decorating goes.