(Closed) Cake and punch with guest who have traveled?

posted 5 years ago in Food
Post # 3
Member
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

It would be better to feed a meal, but there’s nothing wrong with cake and punch as long as they know beforehand, and (IMO) as long as they don’t see you rocking a $10,000 dress or spending $4,000 on flowers.

Just follow the general rules of being a good hostess and no one will hold it against you. The ones who feel “owed” a meal won’t come, and really, you probably don’t want them there anyway.

Post # 4
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9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Make sure you are clear about it being a cake and punch reception so that people traveling know before deciding whether to travel for your wedding.  Also, make sure it’s during a non-meal time so people don’t expect a lot of food (i.e. don’t schedule it during lunch or dinner time.)

In all honesty, I probably wouldn’t travel more than an hour for a cake and punch reception.  I would just assume that the bride wanted to keep things simple and intimate and unless I was immediate family or a really close friend, I would most likely send my regrets.

Post # 5
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9488 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would just make it clear on the invite.  If it’s only cake and punch I would guess that means it’s just a short 2, maybe 3, hour reception?  I probably wouldn’t travel more than 2 hours for such a short reception unless you were close family or a good friend.  That’s more of an issue of not wanting to spend most of my day driving just for a few hours time spent there.  For instance, I wouldn’t want to have to drive 5 hours one way just to have some cake and punch and then turn around and go home.

Post # 6
Hostess
8579 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I agree, you CAN do this, but let them know ahead of time. It really is better to serve a full meal though, but it also depends on how long your reception is.

Keep in mind that some of your guests may not be willing drive hours to your wedding, for cake & punch.

Post # 7
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We are having a reception with cake, drinks, and finger food/appetizers. (We’re also on a really tight budget). BUT, we also want it to be more casual. Just make sure you put it on the invites! 🙂

Post # 9
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9074 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Make sure they know about it beforehand.

If I had to travel more than one hour one way, I’d be a little grumped about cake and punch. I can have cake at home without having to spend money on an outfit, having my husband take the day off work and spend money on a gift and gas.

Post # 10
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112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

A few years ago I was invited to a cocktail reception about 3 hours away.  I investigated what a cocktail reception was (had never heard of it before) and once I realized there would be food, I was ok with it.

So no, I would not travel for cake and punch.

Post # 11
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5405 posts
Bee Keeper

I think it depends how far they’re traveling. Are we talking airfare? Then no, I think just cake and punch is pushing it. 

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