Post # 1
- Wedding: April 2019 - USA
I am getting quotes from cake bakers and I talked to one today that said she basically can’t do anything but buttercream for my wedding cake. I told her I don’t like buttercream and want to go for a cream cheese or chantilly/whipped cream frosting. She told me that it isn’t smooth enough and won’t be able to ice it with that. I told her fine, that’s okay we can do a textured icing instead, and then she offered me a naked cake (not frosted at all) or a thin layer of buttercream showing through the cake? Idk, I just got a weird feeling from this. Is she being inflexible or is she correct on this front? Any pro bakers out there that can shed some light on this for me? I mean, I’ve seen carrot cakes and birthday cakes with non-buttercream icing that looked great, but maybe it’s different with tiers.
I scheduled a tasting with her and she said she’d “think about” other options for the cake. What do you think, bees? Should I just move on and find a baker who can work with me on this? I am worried I’m wasting my time with a tasting if I have these vibes.
Post # 2
missmollybee : I guess I am confused why you are pushing this baker when they have been pretty clear about what they are willing to do.
If you want a particular looking cake and this baker is unable to deliver it then why would you pursue her? Find a baker that works in the medium that you want.
Post # 3
If you are getting quotes from multiple bakers, I’d just move on. It sounds like she can’t offer want you want. I’m confused as to why you are continuing to work with her.
Surely there are other cake bakers in your area. Move on.
Post # 4
She may only be comfortable working with the buttercream and can only guarantee you perfection working with that type of frosting. If you want something else I would recommend looking into other bakers rather than push her into something she doesn’t feel like she can deliver.
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Agree with PP. Rather than trying to push her into making a cake she clearly doesn’t want to make and then being disappointed with her attempt to make what you want, just find another baker. Why are you trying to make her do a cake she doesn’t want to do? Don’t you want the best possible product you can get?
Post # 6
It’s her business. If she wants to specialize in only one type that’s her prerogative. If you don’t want what she specializes in then just find somebody else. Why are you pushing so hard to make her do something for you that she doesn’t want to do or specialize in?
There is nationally-renowned and recognized Bakery in my city that has been featured in all sorts of television shows and magazines and they only do buttercream. If you don’t want it then you just go somewhere else. They get plenty of business and it’s no skin off their nose if someone wants fondant or cream cheese frosting and chooses a different Bakery. I’m sure she is well aware she may not get all of the business out there since she has chosen her specific niche and is just fine with it.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
For the record it is extremely hard to frost a cake with those kinds of frostings. You’re asking for something that’s not generally done at all. To my knowledge, cream cheese frostings and whipped cream frostings are generally fillings, not wedding cake coverings.
Post # 8
Think of her like an artist. You wouldn’t ask an oil painter to use water colours. She does what she does, and told you what she does. IDK why you are insisting she do something else when you could just go with another baker.
Post # 9
She’s told you what she can offer–if it’s not what you want move on to other options. It’s not a good idea to push a professional to do something they aren’t comfortable with or can guarantee the quality of–work with someone who can give you what you want, if it’s a realistic option, or learn what is a reasonable option.
Post # 10
hickoryhills : this! You could get those as fillings but the cake isn’t going to look as good without buttercream on the outside. And by not as good I mean bad, crumbly and messy. You could ask about a cream cheese buttercream too
Post # 11
Find a new baker. That’s like going to caterer who specializes in BBQ and asking them to make you a vegan wedding meal. She’s told you the kind of cakes she makes, if that’s not what you want just go to someone else?
Post # 12
Only go with her if you’re fine with buttercream. She’s not as well skilled in other mediums and you run the risk of having icing issues if she tries other frostings.
My baker only did buttercream, and I loved the cake. It’s one of the best cakes I’ve had – but you don’t like butter cream, so move on.
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2019 - USA
I’m not sure why everyone seems to think I’m “pushing” the baker to do this? Her website listed several different types of icings she offers other than buttercream (including cream cheese and whipped cream), so that’s why I reached out to her.
But I do hear where everyone is coming from though, it seems better to go with someone else. It never occurred to me to just cut the cord then and there if the baker seems squeamish about what I’m asking for. I thought you go through the tasting and all that before making a decision.
Post # 14
- Wedding: July 2020 - Ireland
missmollybee : I’m wondering if it has to do with temperature control and the other frosting not holding up as well, especially when refrigerated or at room temp for lengths of time. In my experience cream cheese frosting can get soft and kind of saggy when it’s out for a bit (like on the table at the reception) and whipped cream frosting can be a pain too (I use gelatine to make my hold when the cake is iced otherwise it kind of melts off at room temp. It gets crusty and funky though once it sits out too long, even after a day or so – if she frosted it the day before it would be “off” by your wedding day).
Post # 15
I’d go with someone else. I don’t like buttercream either. We’re doing a chocolate cake with a chocolate whipped cream based frosting. Understandably the baker was worried it might melt if it sat out (to me this is the bigger issue than vs. butter cream or fondant) so we’re having the cake brought out right before the cutting and it will be just a small cutting cake. I know another friend who had a specialty request had a tiered cake that was mostly styrofoam except for her layer and he rest of the cake came out from the back. So it definitely can be done, but then I think you might have to change your expectations of what the cake looks like. Or do a combination of say frosting/fondant on the outside and what you’d prefer as fillings.