Post # 1
So one of my mom’s good friends opened an ethnic bakery recently. She makes Asian sweets and chinese style cake.
When she heard that me and my fiance got engaged, she immediately offered to do our wedding cake as a wedding present to us.
Very generous of her, and we’re grateful. Except –
I hate it. I’m not particularly fond of the style of cake she makes and she uses whipping cream as the frosting. Which means our options in terms of decorating our pretty limited. We don’t want anything fancy, but I don’t think I can tell her I don’t want her to do the cake without SERIOUSLY offending her.
What should I do? I suppose I can live with cake isn’t to my liking, but I can’t even dream up any cakes that I think would look nice with a whip cream frosting. Any ideas??
Post # 3
tell her you really want fondant for your main cake and that your fiancee loves the flavor of her cake so you’d like her to make the grooms cake.
Post # 4
Sarakat28 has a good idea. I would definitly talk to your mother and make sure it can be smoothed through. Its a very generous offer for her and its probably not worth serious friendship damage.
Post # 5
Tell her you really really appreciate her offer but you want her to be able to enjoy herself on the wedding day and don’t want her to have to worry about the frosting melting, cake getting soft, etc in the hot weather. If she insists, you can let her make the groom’s cake, or even dessert for the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 6
Yeah! Suggest the grooms cake or something or make up an allergy that some guests have to whipped cream or something…
Post # 7
I dunno. You might be surprised at what’s possible. My work will get cakes from the grocery store with whipped cream frosting but you wouldn’t know that it’s not the regular stuff to look at it. They can get it pretty smooth if that’s the look you want. I found this one in a google image search:
Or there’s this one:
Or even some swirly deliciousness like this one that I want to eat right now:
I’d be more inclined to not look a gift horse in the mouth (baking your cake is a huge offer!) But asking her to make the groom’s cake instead could be a good way to get around it.
There are two other cakes I want to put on here that I just saw featured in a blog but I can’t remember where. 🙁
Post # 8
Thanks so much for the advice.
While I’m not sure we’re doing a groomscake [the fiance doesn’t want one and my family & baker friend would not know what that is] I’m sure we’ll find a design that is suitable.
I will definitely talk to my mom also.
You guys are the best!
Post # 9
You could also do a dessert buffet, perhaps she can make a small cake and have the baker of your choice make the other desserts.
Post # 10
I agree with what’s above, just explain that you want fondant or a more complex design, etc. I’ve never heard of using whipped cream icing, actually, outside of strawberry shortcakes, that is a new one for me!
Post # 11
Dito on the above comment!! You can never have too much cake.