(Closed) Cake in the Face vs. Trashing the Dress

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: What are you ok with when it comes to destroying your dress?
    There will be NO cake on my face and I WILL NOT trash my dress : (107 votes)
    72 %
    I don't mind cake on my face but I WILL NOT trash my dress : (8 votes)
    5 %
    There will be NO cake on my face but I WILL trash my dress : (9 votes)
    6 %
    I don't mind cake on my face and I'm totally trashing the dress : (3 votes)
    2 %
    I am unsure whether or not I like cake on my face but I WILL NOT trash the dress : (1 votes)
    1 %
    I DO NOT want cake on my face, but I am unsure whether or not I will trash the dress : (15 votes)
    10 %
    I don't mind cake on my face but I am unsure whether or not I will trash the dress : (3 votes)
    2 %
    I am unsure about my feelings on both topics. : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    855 posts
    Busy bee

    Maybe because the ‘trash the dress’ shoot isn’t done on your wedding day?

    I won’t be doing a TTD, but I know I wouldn’t want cake on my face because it could ruin my ‘look’ for the rest of the evening. Not anything to do with ruining the dress.

    It’s a bit like saying, why would you NOT want water thrown all over you on your wedding day, when you’re willing to participate in a water fight the day after? The two things aren’t anything to do with each other, really.

    Post # 4
    1975 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Their will be NO cake getting smooshed on my face!! I am paying too much for pro makeup and a pro photographer to have the rest of the night me looking like shit.

    I am having a TTD shoot, but I am not sure if this counts as it will be held before my wedding with a cheapie dress i bought for $100 and the hair and make up will be from my trial date.

    Also the photography is part of the package but was meant to be an engagement shoot – but I already had 2 e shoots before i booked this photographer and she had no packages without one and actually gave me a cheaper deal because she has never done a TTD shoot so even photography is essentially free

    Post # 5
    6355 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I can’t stand either and will not be doing either.

    The wedding to me is an extremely emotionally important, almost sacred moment between the two of us (I’m atheist, but I mean it really has a LOT of significance to both me and Fiance, the moment we formally commit to each other forever). We will both probably be trembling under the emotional weight of it all. “Trashing” or “smushing” key symbols within the ceremony doesn’t symbolize what I feel about it at all.

    It has absolutely nothing to do with makeup. If the ‘tradition’ was only about smearing cake on the groom’s face, I still wouldn’t do it. He’s my groom. It’s our wedding. It’s the last thing I want to do.

    Post # 7
    1347 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2014


    I do not want cake smushed on my face, because I don’t want to be a sticky mess with cake on my face/in my hair/on my dress on my wedding day. Once the day is over, I won’t wear the dress again (unless I end up with a dress that can be shortened to a nice, non-wedding dress). I doubt I will do a TTD, but I would not rule it out. It’s not really getting the dress dirty that bothers me (i’m sure dry cleaners can get cake out), it’s more the fact that I am spending a lot of money on our wedding and want to look good and feel comfortable the whole night. Once the night is over though, the dress will (in many cases) sit in the wardrobe doing nothing. For me it’s got everything to do with not wanting to get dirty at a very expensive party, and nothing to do with being emotionally attached to a dress.

    Post # 8
    3571 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I hate cake in the face. I think TTD is sometimes really cool, although I didn’t do it. I’m saving mine to make a christening gown out of I think. 

    Post # 9
    855 posts
    Busy bee

    @Lovemelovemyhorses:  +1 🙂

    It’s not about the dress – it’s about looking good on your wedding day. Isn’t that the reason why everyone buys an amazing dress in the first place? To look good?

    Post # 10
    4656 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My cake issues are not dress related.

    I would consider trashing my dress, except that it’s actually moderately rewearable due to being in separate parts, so I have to think hard about it. 

    Post # 12
    9916 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Smushing cake in someone’s face is incredibly immature, and it’s ridiculous to do at weddings.

    Trashing a thousand-dollar dress is wasteful.  Why not sell it or donate it?

    Post # 14
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’m not into TTD, but it is definitely different. That happens later – not at the wedding like with cake smashing where you’d have to still walk around for the rest of the night in a messy dress with icing in your hair. 

    Post # 15
    1399 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We didn’t do the cake in the face thing. In fact, I didn’t eat cake at all lol. We jumped into the ocean in our clothes at the end of our wedding :o) But that didn’t trash my dress… it’s been cleaned and it’s fine :o)

    Post # 16
    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Me not wanting to have cake smashed all over my face has nothing to do with my dress. I don’t want my face to get nasty and sticky from icing. I may trash my dress at some point but I am not 100% on it right now.

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