(Closed) Cake in the Face

posted 9 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Do you think it's disrespectful for a B/G to smear cake on her/his new spouse's face?
    Yes : (23 votes)
    51 %
    No : (8 votes)
    18 %
    No opinion : (6 votes)
    13 %
    Other--please share your opinion! : (8 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    114 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I voted other.  I don’t think its disrespectful unless one of you asked that it not be done, and then the other did do it.  If that is the case, yes it is disrespectful.  However, I don’t personally know of any cases where it was discussed and then someone went against the discussion.

    Post # 4
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    3979 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I’m in complete agreement– it’s disrespectful.

    I’ve seen it done in a sweet way (like a little dab on the nose) but smashing cake in your spouses face or hair is just so awful. Maybe I’m uptight, but I don’t find it funny. Especially after hours of pre-wedding prep!!

    Post # 5
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    948 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2018 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay

    I don’t think it’s disrespectful either – especially if both parties heartily agree to it!

    However, I do think it is something that should be discussed and decided upon prior to the wedding.  For example, I wouldn’t be very happy if Mr. Q smashed cake all over my face, so he isn’t going to do it.  ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 6
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    484 posts
    Helper bee

    I only think its disrespectful if the person specifically asked that they not smash cake in their face and it’s done anyway.

    Their will be no smashing at my wedding. Maybe a cute dot of frosting on the nose but no smashing! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 7
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    700 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think it depends on the couple.  My brother married a German girl that he had met while stationed there for the airforce, and when he smeared cake in her face (after I had warned him not to) she had no idea what had just happened, neither did any of the other guests.  It took a bit of explaining, but over all, did not go well.

    Moral of the story: This may be a topic that you want absolutely cleared up before your cake cutting. 

    I don’t personally want to have cake in my face, especially if I’ve paid good money for someone to do my make up…

    Post # 8
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    752 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    I agree with the above posters who said that it depends on the couple. I think if it’s playful and both people are up for it (and discussed it beforehand) then fine. I personally don’t want it, but I don’t judge people who think it’s all in good fun.

    Post # 9
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    796 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    I agree, it’s only disrespectful if it is something you asked the other person not to do and they did it anyway. I have seen couples that find it really funny to do to each other.

    Post # 10
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    365 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    I thought it was cute the way my Maid/Matron of Honor and her husband did it at their wedding – it was very playful.  But it won’t be done at our wedding – partially because I prefer to eat my cake, not wear it… but mostly because my makeup artist did not come cheap, so I’d prefer my makeup not be covered by icing. 

    Post # 11
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    601 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    i don’t think its disrespectful, but we didn’t go that way, just a nice simple romantic cake bike share for us.  

    Post # 12
    Member
    216 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2018 - Outdoor ceremony, banquet hall reception

    I find the whole thing to be really passive-aggressive, and uncomfortable to watch! But if you both agree that you’d like to do it, then more power to you.

    Mr. Powder Puff has been thoroughly schooled on my opinions on the matter- there will be no cake smash for us!

    Post # 13
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    248 posts
    Helper bee

    Definitely disrespectful if one asks for it not to be done and and the spouse does it anyway. But even if they both agree that it’s OK, it seems silly and immature to me. What is the point? The bride has either paid money or taken time to do her make-up nicely. Both bride and groom have taken time to look their best. So who thinks it’s “fun” or “cute” to have cake smashed on their faces? It’s not like it’s a 1-year old’s bithday party where it’s cute to see the baby make a mess. I agree with the eariler poster who said it’s uncomfortable to watch. I would like to see this “tradition” end – it’s just unecessary and thankfully I’ve been to very few weddings where it’s been done.

    Post # 14
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    246 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I think it’s disrespectful when it’s over the top….cake up the nostrils is NOT cute!  However, if it’s just a little bit of frosting or whatever, then I think that’s kind of cute and playful.  I DEFINITELY think the couple should make a decision as to how they’re going to handle it before, so there are no hurt feelings at the reception….otherwise, things could get really messy….pun intended ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 15
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    677 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’ve seen plenty of joyful, playful couples have a lot of fun mussing each other up with cake. It can be cute, funny and is definately something you don’t forget.

    As for me I expressed to my ex multiple times before the wedding that I DID NOT WANT him to smash cake on me. He did. I spent an hour in the bathroom crying afterward. Just one of the many reasons he’s my ex.

     Luckily, I’ve got my white knight now who would never do such a thing ๐Ÿ™‚

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