(Closed) Cake NIGHTMARE!!

posted 9 years ago in Food
Post # 3
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

“oh thanks so much for the offer, but we’re going to go with X bakery. we just love their work and it’s so delicious” then throw in the “you’ll have enough going on, the last thing we want to stress YOU out with is the cake. Seriously, this is just soooo mcuh easier”

just say NO thanks. you don’ tneed the stress

Post # 4
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Maybe just tell her that you decided you want her to be able to relax with you the days before the wedding, and that you don’t want to put any pressure on her.

This is what we told FI’s uncle who volunteered to DJ.

Post # 5
7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Ick. That is definitely a dilemma. I really don’t blame you for not wanting her to bake it.

Maybe tell her that the logistics just dont work. Your kitchen doesn’t suit the job, etc.? Make sure to tell her that you really appreciate her offer, that is was very generous but you you would rather her relax and enjoy the wedding with his father rather than have to worry about a wedding cake.

Post # 6
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I agree you should just say you are going with a bakery so there is no worry on delivery, last minute issues, and your oven isn’t reliable, etc…  It sounds though maybe she was hoping for it to be her contribution to the wedding.  Some people might not help monetarily and instead hope to contribute their talents.  You could always ask for a sketch of what she wants to do.  And put in on Cake Wrecks if needed!

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