- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
I’m having quite the cake dilemma. Where to start? So my FI’s step-mom has offered to make us our cake. This is an extremely generous offer, and inititally I thought it would be a great idea and cut costs. Well, it’s not. First, I have showed her the types of simple cakes that Fiance and I want, but she always e-mails me with (ugly) extravagant cakes that are hideous, saying she can “do more” if we want! Secondly, she lives out of state, and has asked to bake our cake in our apartment! Our tiny apartment with an un-ruly and non-stable oven where you NEVER get the same result twice! Thirdly, I have asked her to show me pictures of her previous work (she worked at a bakery for 5+ years and has worked at Costco bakery for the past 15). She cannot give me even one picture to show me! Now Bees, this is extremely frustrating and stressing to me! It’s not that I don’t have faith in her, b/c I do, but everything I’ve asked (which I don’t think is being too “Bridezilla-esq”), she cannot give me an answer on!
Needless to say, I really, really, really do NOT want her baking our cake!! The logistics just will not work. To make matters even more awkward, she and FI’s Dad haven’t even offered to pay one penny towards the wedding! My parents and FI’s Mom are pitching in a pretty penny, and we’re covering most of it!! Now, my question to you girls is, how do I go about telling her politely that I just do not feel comfortable with her baking our wedding cake? I mean, where is she going to bake it? How will she transport it? Will it look anything like I want it to? Any suggestions Bees?