(Closed) Cake Smashing? Traditional… or not your “Cup of Tea?”

posted 8 years ago in Food
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I agree with you. I dislike it, but I am lucky that my Fiance agrees. Have you tried suggesting an alternative? I have heard of the couple just dabbing icing on each others noses or something cute like that. He still ensures you wear baked good; you don’t have too much to clean off. Hope you find a compromise!

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I didn’t want it either.  My husband knew that I would probably kill him if he did it to me and he didn’t want me upset at him.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would not be happy if Fiance smashed me with cake.  Unless I was totally onboard before hand.  Yikes!  I hate anything on my face, especially food!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am NOT a fan of cake smashing, either. First, it’ll ruin my makeup, which I’ll be spending time and money on. Second, it’s a waste of perfectly good cake. My Fiance also doesn’t like it, and actually told me that the only thing I could possibly do to ruin the wedding day would be to smash cake in his face. He REALLY doesn’t like it!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I hate cake smashing, personally.  If Fiance did that he knows I would be bull and he wouldn’t get any that night.  I also don’t get it because why would you want it up your noise, ruining your make up and possibly getting on your dress!

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Considering that feeding cake to each other symbolizes how you will take care of each other and never let each other go hungry, there’s no way anyone will be smashing cake in my face. I don’t hold with violence, and I told CiarraiMan that if he tries to do anything other than nicely feed me, our marriage will be over before it begins.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

Let your groom know that CAKE SMASHING is in the mostly TACKY category… very rarely is it viewed as “cute”

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We are sooo not doing this.  Fiance knows that I will not be happy when my hair and make up is ruined!  And god help him if it gets on my dress.

If your groom is really set on it maybe you could do a trial at home to let him know just how much he can get away with.  Like, just a little teeny dab on your nose so he can get it our of his system.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Cake smashing is definitely on my no-no list, good think my fi feels the same way.  I have never understood why you would want to start off your marriage by smashing cake in each others faces.  It just doesn’t seem kind or loving.  Plus, all that money for hair and makeup, just to have it ruined by cake! 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I recently read in some bridal magazine that couples who smash cake in each other’s faces (or at least do more than just “gingerly feed it to each other”) are MORE likely to get divorced.  I wish I had the article to give the exact research but I only remember the quote.  I have never been a fan – this statistic is even more reason why I will never allow FH to do so – and thank God he doesn’t want to anyway.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Honestly, I think this tradition is totally disrespectful. There is no time when my FH would smash food into my face, especially not right after I spent hundreds on my hair and makeup! Teehee 😉

Honestly though, I have only seen this happen once in real life at weddings, so I’m not sure how really traditional and how much “tv/movie traditional” it is.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We will be gingerly and sweetly feeding it to each other for our wedding. After we were married we had a little cake and we had a heck of a go. But we were also in jeans and coats being silly in the backyard. Let me tell you from previous experience picking cake out of places it shouldn’t be and out(and off of) the dress is beyond irritating.

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