Post # 1
My step-mother is a professional cake decorator, and my sister had her do the cake for her wedding. She would be horribly offended if I didn’t ask her to do my cake.
HOWEVER, her cakes are totally not my style. I hated my sister’s cake, and I’d rather not have my step-mother’s tacky cake be the main focus.
I was thinking about asking all of the women in our lives (my mom and step-mom, his mom, grandma, and aunts) to make a 8″ round cake of varying flavors/styles, and using all of them on different cake stands. That way, step-mom’s god-awful cake will only be one among many and not so noticeable. I would also make a cake, and that would be the one we cut for pictures, so none of the women who made the cakes are offended that we didn’t use theirs for the cake cutting pictures.
Plus, there’s the added bonus of not spending a small fortune on our cake.
Our wedding is going to be a ton of DIY, rustic-y, on his parents’ farm.
What do you think?
Post # 3
That’s a really cute idea!
Post # 4
I think it is a cute idea.
But it leaves me wondering how bad can step-mom’s cake really be? Could you give her ideas of what you are looking for to make it better?
Post # 5
I think that’s a terrific idea! And you would have a great variety of flavours!
Post # 6
I think this is a great idea – both as a way to avoid a cake ONLY from your step-mom that you don’t like and as a way to have lots of different types of cake available! Other pros include that it is a cheaper option and it would definitely fit your wedding!
Post # 7
That is such a great idea! There is no way she could be offended by that:) Plus it will be a lot of fun for your guests to be able to chose what flavor they want and each woman can feel like they helped with the wedding.
Post # 8
I think it’s a good idea 🙂
Post # 10
I think that would be a fun idea!! Something totally different and unique!
Post # 11
Oh, her cakes are bad. Like 1980’s wedding cake bad. She’s been out of the business for a long time, so she’s not up to speed on current trends. The cake tastes fine, but they are so ugly. This is my sister’s cake:
My step-mom and I have had a very rough relationship for most of her and my dad’s 18 year marriage. I would like things to be as smooth as possible with her. While I can tell her what flavor of cake I want her to make, asking her to change her style of decoration is probably not going to go over well.
I figure with asking all of the women to make a cake, I don’t run the risk of offending her.
Post # 12
oh I’m sorry, that is definitely out of style and I’d be with you, not wanting her to make my cake.
Your other option is to just be honest and say, look Stepmom, I’d love to have you make our wedding cake, but unfortunately it’s not the style we were looking for.
Post # 13
I REALLY wanted to do this for our wedding, but my sister and mom freaked out saying it would be too much to ask people to make and decorate a cake in the day or two before the wedding. I still might make some myself as a secret 😉
Post # 14
We had cascading cakes for our wedding, instead of one large one. Our reasons were different, but I really liked having all the separate cakes (with different flavors).
Post # 15
i think that is a GREAT idea. I actually want something that is very close to that. My Fi and I are not big cake fans but we doi like it once and a while. But we love cheese cake; so we might have a couple of nice cheesecakes. Or maybe go with cake route. I like this idea better than going the big huge cake route.
Post # 16
Wow… yeahhh that is a ummmm…. nice… cake. I would put it on the back of the cake table! Maybe you could have an 80’s theme wedding complete with shoulder pads and then her cake would totally fit! Hahaha no really though, your idea will definately go over well:)