Post # 1
Hello all….I’ve been having a very frustrating couple of weeks….we are less than 4 months away from the wedding and I don’t know how we are going to afford it!
It’s not been due to a lack of planning, but rather a change in plans…my father might no longer be helping us pay for it!
We have deposits set with all of our vendors and somethings that are paid for. The big problem is FI and I haven’t saved a lot of money because we were counting on my father to pay for things as he said he would all along (we did have `3k saved at one point, but FI lost his job and we used half of it) . He’s only given us $1300 to date to be put towards deposits and various expenses and we still owe approx 8k to vendors. Up until this week he has been telling us he is fine getting the money together..the problem is that there has been a new development where he is upset with my mother and when they argue he takes it out on everyone….and now he says he won’t pay for the wedding…my mom tells me not to worry and that she will figure something out, but I don’t think its going to happen.
Should we just postpone our wedding or see what we can do to pool the funds together? I just don’t know what to do and I am very stressed and freaking out about the whole situation…I hate to cancel because we are not the only ones putting money into this…my BMs have bought their dresses and plane tickets and they already paid for my very expensive bachelorette weekend in Vegas. I don’t know what to do.
Post # 3
I would consider other money gathering alternatives. They have wedding loans out there and you might want to see about getting one or a personal loan or pre-approval just to be sure, in case daddy doesnt come through. If your mom says she will figure something out, I would measure it up just in case. Cancelling the wedding would be frustrating for not just you and your FI, especially if you have out of town guests and attendents and most airlines have a no refund policy. I would exercise all options prior to deciding on a cancellation. I am very sorry that you’re going through this, and I do wish you the best. I am doing a lot of corner cutting and cost effective options, if you’d like to put our minds together to make things a little easier for you and your budget.
Post # 4
So sorry you are going through this only a couple of months before your wedding, I think you should sit down with your father and have a serious talk. Just explain to him how much stress this is causing you and your understand if he can no longer pay for the wedding anf if that is the case you just need to know so that you can make adjustments. I wouldn’t call off the wedding but once you decide how much funds that you actually have available you can scale down your guest list and speak to each vendor to see if you can apply your deposit to a lesser package.
Post # 5
The trouble is I can’t speak with my father right now…he has turned off his phone (he only has a cell) and has disconnected himself so to say….I was wary of having him pay for things since he’s been a fickle man and is changing his mind on a whim because he is angry…I’ve been thinking of ways to scale back our guest list and even to avoid staying in a hotel and cut out the limo…we were already doing a budget friendly wedding and I just don’t know what else we can do to cut back….or venue if the biggest chunk of the price and there is really no way to cut it out without losing money.
Post # 6
any ideas on how to make money fast?
Post # 7
Garage sale, summer tutoring. Going after the traditional “summer jobs” – babysitting, lawnmowing, pet walking. If you tell your neighbors that you’re doing this to raise money for your wedding, they’d have to be cold hearted to chose a 13-year-old kid over you!