(Closed) Call those who haven't RSVP'd?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We got ahold of the people we weren’t sure about. Most of them meant to RSVP but forgot. I think it’s pretty safe for you to do that. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Is this for your wedding (and your date is correct?).  I’d assume it’s difficult for a lot of people to fully commit almost six months out, but if you need solid answers and your RSVP date has passed, then you have to call all the outstanding replies.  We definitely had more people who didn’t reply because “you guys should know I wouldn’t miss it!” than people that didn’t reply because they weren’t coming.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@VintageMichelle:  Ahhh…  Yes, you have to personally contact each person who doesn’t reply.  Unless you don’t care about having an “exact” number for your party.  But assuming you want to try to make a seating plan and have to give a specific number to your caterer you’ll want to.  It’s one of the most frustrating parts of wedding planning.  We had a couple people (ahem, my husband’s friends) that we were still trying to get a definite answer out of as I was driving home from my rehearsal dinner.  Ridiculous, but they were the type to just show up even if we said something like “if you don’t let us know for sure by X, it’ll have to be a no”.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO @VintageMichelle:  Your RSVP Deadline needs to be well in advance of when you actually need the info. 

Example, the Caterer needs to know on October 10th, then your Deadline needs to be like September 30th.  Then you have about 9 Days to work with

(This is just an “example”… lots of Bride’s work with a 30 Day window… so in your case that would be September 19th)

You can’t really start making any phone calls to bug your non-RSVPers until after the deadline for the Guests to RSVP has passed… and many add on a couple more days, just incase the Reply was sent out the last day listed.

Hope this helps,

 

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