Called an 'it'

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 31
9525 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

don’t let one person’s opinion get you down.  i know it’s not the same thing.  but what if he absolutely hated french fries and you loved them.  all he talks about how awful french fries are.  would that really matter?  if it bothers you, call him out on his crap and use it as a teaching moment, or stop being friends.

having gone through IVF, i call people out when i hear insensitive things.

Post # 32
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

Ugh. People are dumb and that is dumb.

I’m sure they’re not the only one who thinks that way, but the opinion of someone who sees the world in such black and white, especially when it comes to things that literally don’t matter in any way, isn’t worth putting any stock in.

There are people out there who believe you’re not really a “woman” until you have kids lol so I guess I’ll never be a real woman either ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Post # 34
467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2020 - City, State

People can be so stupid, and I’m sad your feelings were hurt. 


This reminded me of something a friend told me a few years ago. She (age 50) said that a group of her young co-workers were questioning her about her love life on day at lunch…my friend is a lesbian. My friend told me that the young co-wokers were shocked that lesbians get their period. WTF?? 

Post # 35
204 posts
Helper bee

They thought they were being clever or funny.  Some people say cruel things thinking it’ll illicit a laugh or make them look cool.  Most people grow out of that bullshit in high school but some people really are pathetic and don’t ever develop beyond that point.

Get better friends, and don’t think for a moment people agree with what that jackass said.

Post # 36
2660 posts
Sugar bee

That person is terrible. Firstly, they’re stupid and that argument makes no sense – Do they think that women who have had to have hysterectomies or have gone through menopause aren’t women, or that men that have had vasectomies aren’t men? And secondly, if they were aiming it at trans people they are both stupid AND a bigotted a**hole. 

Post # 37
404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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jannigirl :  they would have been referring to people with a penis who identify as a woman. 

Post # 38
411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2020 - Windermere, Cumbria

That is fucked up. People are not things.

Post # 39
7694 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Realistically, with leadership that wants to define trans people out of existence, I am not sure things are going to get any better for a while. Bigots realize they have cover for their abhorrent views and thus feel empowered to verbalize them.

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