(Closed) Called off my Wedding 3 weeks away :( Did I make the right decision?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@golda3:  You definitely made the right decision.  I’m so sorry that you are going through this, but thankful that you found out right before the wedding.  I honestly don’t think either of them could be trusted.  He says she was trying to ruin your relationship, but he is the one who also slept with her 2 years ago.  He had to REASSURE HER that he didn’t sleep with anyone in Vegas.  They’re also still communicating.  Definitely is not worth your time.  You deserve so much better.  So good for you to stand your ground and be strong.  Please remember we’re always here for you.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

Wow that is awful. That’s not how you treat someone you love. You deserve so much better, and if you treat yourself like you do, you will find it. Good for you for leaving. Stay strong! 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You definitely did the right thing! Thankfully this came to light before the wedding rather than after. He was doing things behind your back & trying to hide it from you. Things would only get worse after the wedding. I don’t blame you for being an emotional wreck.. and I think most people in your situation would be totally upset. It sounds like you’re a lot stronger than you realize *hugs*

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Ick!  That whole situation with the other woman is just messed up.  Be glad you figured it out before an easy separation turned into a messy divorce.  I feel bad that you and your children will have to deal with the consequences of his mistake(s).

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

After reading all that, you 100% made the right decision. I’m so sorry that you and your children have to go through this. Best of luck.

Post # 8
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451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You are definitley making the right decision! 

Whose name is the house in?  If you have been paying the mortgage,  you should get to stay with the kids and he should leave.  Can you take legal action?  He sounds like a jerk and a deceitful one at that.  Be glad you got out before you are legally bound to him or you found out ten years from now and the kids would be more hurt. 

Post # 9
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454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I wish I could give you a hug 🙁

  For what it’s worth I think you did what’s right for you and your children. You deserve so much better than this. You deserve someone who treats you right and doesn’t go behind your back.

Even if it was 2 years ago you said you’ve been together for 10 years? Having already been with you for 8 years that shows a complete lack of respect towards you and your children.

Post # 10
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609 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

what a pathetic excuse of a man, you are well rid of him! You really are better off without a scum bag like that. Shame on him

Post # 11
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454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

 Also I have no idea how this works but does your state recognize common law marriage after being together so many years? THat may also be something worth looking into regarding the house.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

He is a dirty little liar. You made the right decision.

Post # 14
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475 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My heart aches for you, I’m so sorry! Better now than dealing with a messy divorce. You made the right decision. *hugs*

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You, without a doubt, made the right choice! 

I am so sorry you are dealing with this!

Post # 16
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158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Stay strong if not for you than for thekids!

Its not ok for them to see a disfunctional relationship and dont ever think youll be miserable for the rest of your life, although it takes time to heal it all depends on you to be happy. If you want to stay miserable you will.

Youve already took the right steps by leaving and like pecanpie said “It sounds like you’re a lot stronger than you realize *hugs*”

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