(Closed) Calling African American Brides (or not). Did you have a black wedding planner?

posted 6 years ago in African-American
  • poll: Did you have a black wedding planner?

    Yes...and on purpose too!

    Yes....but I didn't even think about it till now.

    No...but I didn't even consider it till you asked.

    No...they (black planners) were no where to be found when I was looking for one.

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  • Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

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    SeaRhapsody:  to me, it has been beyond worth it. I’m such a planner that I plan in my sleep, but having someone to give me a short list of highly recommended djs so that research i do and search is much faster than the photog, cake, and other vendor searches really did save me time. Also, having her draft schedules that I can just add to and edit? Saves lots of time. And the experience of someone who can say- oh the reason you want to do x at y time is ___. So you don’t come up with any bad ideas or plans.

    She also will be fully familiar on the wedding day and implementing the plan that we’ve developed. Why? Because you don’t want to be keeping everyone on schedule on your wedding day- that would show on your face in your pics. Also- a certain guest no shows or someone unexpected comes? The planner’s got it. Ppl weren’t listening or reading when you told them how something should be set up 3 times already so they’re asking again? The planner’s got it. I love it. 

    Post # 17
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    Worker bee

    I believe my situation is slightly different when it comes to a wedding planner. My Fiance and I are planning a destination wedding in Punta Cana ,May 2015. So I didnt feel that i actually needed a “planner”.  A co worker of mine was stating how she loves weddings, coordinated her own and is possibly thinking to venture into the as a side business. and asked if I could be her first client. Intially she declined any money for her services but then stated whatever I wnt to give her. Courtney (planner) has been such an asset!! things that i would’ve never thought of she brings to my attention, she everything organized such as dress fittings, purchasing save the dates, invites. She has built my website and updates it accordingly. the list goes on. This helps me an alot, and yes she just happens to be black!

    Post # 18
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I am not AA but my day-of-coordinator and her set-up crew were. She is actually a corporate event planner and is a wedding day-of-coordinator as a side business.

    edit: having a day of coordinator was a godsend! We couldnt afford a full on wedding coordinator but having someone there to ensure the day ran smoothly and help direct vendors was probably the best decision we made!

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 10 months ago by  hollyberry4.
    Post # 19
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I am Caucasian my planner is AA and I never even thought about it. I hired her for her references, enthusiasm and knowledge! 

    Post # 20
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

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    MrsHistory-Bee:  Well since “blacks” out number “whites” where I’m from it is more like that any vendor I had would have been black honestly so it wasn’t a real thought. However my planner/coordinator is my godmother. She really wanted to do it for me and I trust her completely. She heard my ideas and is trying to give me everything on a reasonable budget. She has done weddings before and they were all beautiful she knew I want something different from how weddings are normally done here and I had a vision and she helping me as close to that as possible. 

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

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    MrsHistory-Bee:  I’m AA and my fiancee is Hispanic and we have an AA planner. It definitely wasnt planned, she just happened to fit our needs. She showed us samples our her work and understood exactly what we wanted during our consulation. Race didnt factor into our decision; it was strictly based off of need, qualitifactions and price.

    Post # 22
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

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    MrsHistory-Bee:  I wanted a black planner, but the one I was looking for did not exist in my budget and the ones that did let’s just say we had a BIG difference of opinion when It came to my vision. The planner I have now is not AA and started off just divine we recently had a little problem with linens, but we are working through it. I still feel she can do the job although my confidends is a little shaken.

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Ceremony and Reception: Historic mansion on the water

    I went with the best planner for me and she happens to be AA.  I am in the DC area as well so AA businesses are plentiful.  In this area there are tons of excellent wedding vendors of all races and nationalities.  It’s all about your style and budget really.   

    Post # 24
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Laguna Hills, CA

    I have more than one planner 1 is black and 1 is not. Race doesn’t matter to me.. I just care about how well they do their job.

    Post # 25
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - The Bellagio Hotel, Las Vegas

    So my wedding coordinator (planner) is black but I didn’t go out looking for a black wedding planner. It just happened that the wedding coordinator at the Bellagio (Las Vegas) that we were a singed to happen to be black. I’m having a nondenominational wedding both my fiancé and I are catholic but didn’t feel like having a traditional wedding. Plus my fiancé is Armenian and doesn’t really understand the black wedding traditions.

    Post # 26
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    Honey bee

    My daughter’s wedding was inter-racial. They made sure to have an inter-racial band (you’d be surprised how many were all caucasian), but the day-of co-ordinator was assigned by the venue – the department manager and she  was excellent+; no wedding planner was used. Intitially they tried to find a AA female officiant, but gave up on that (they tried to be equal on the officiant as he has – AA male minister and she has – C female minister).

    Post # 27
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I’m not African American, I’m a black South African and my planner is a white South African. Searching for a planner based in a foreign country for a wedding to take place back home was very difficult but I never put any race requirements to it. I just searched the web & found someone who is professional, experienced and fell within my budget limits. Coming to think of it now almost all my vendors are white (DJ, photographer, videographers, planner). It’s only the officiant who is black & that’s because I insisted on having the ceremony conducted in our language and there aren’t many non blacks who can speak it. I’ve been given funny looks by certain family members though since using white people is viewed as snobby or expensive. It’s just our history I think. 

     

    Post # 28
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I had a black planner it was a conscious decision. There are plenty of black planners in my area. Mine was great she does weddings for all races, it was nice to not have to explain the cultural differences between black Americans and other races. She was professional. She was great not because she was black,just because she was. When I have a baby shower she is going to plan it. She did decor as well.

    Post # 29
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

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    Quany76:  Not to scare you but my best friend did that and it was fine until the day of. Her mom’s friend who was supper organized and wanted to go into the business,volunteered to be her planner, I tried to warn my bestfriend to hire a day of person and she refused thinking her lady could Handel it. Oh my gosh it was a disaster many friend kept getting pissed when issues came up like they always do. My friend kept saying she wasn’t doing stuff. My friend couldn’t relax because she kept having to filter questions that a planner would have made provisions  for because they have experience. All this to say maybe you should get a day of planner they  probably have people at the resort who do that. Either way good luck.

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 5 months ago by  mrs1040ez.
    Post # 30
    Bee
    182 posts
    Blushing bee

    I don’t have a planner but my DOC is AA. It’s so difficult because so many of us in that profession always seem to “F” it up somehow, but I’m keeping faith they I made the right choice. I too wanted an AA coordinator because there’s just certain things they can do and control better with our folks. 

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