- 8 years ago
I come to you on behalf of a very dear friend of mine. From here forward, I will refer to her as Dear Fiance. I will also try to make this as straight forward as possible without missing any facts.
Dear Fiance met and became involved with a lovely guy from work (Guy #1) some time in the month of September, after having an up and down relationship with another one of her co-workers (Guy #2) that was seemingly on the out and out with her. (I know, I know…I’m thinking the same thing you are. Risky business!)
Anyway, Dear Fiance ended out sleeping with Guy #1 for the first time in early October. Their sexual relationship continued to blossom through the first three weeks of October until their chemistry fizzled and their last sexual encounter was around the 19th or 20th of October. EVERY TIME they had sex, it was protected through the use of a condom and NO skin to skin contact or any “accidents” with the condom took place (so she says).
Fast forward to the night of October 23rd. Dear Fiance managed to make ammends with Guy #2 and they subsequently had sex that night. There was NO protection used although he did pull out.
Dear Fiance states she is pretty regular with her cycle and was expecting her period on or around October 28th as her last period began on or around September 28th. On October 31st, she realized she was a bit late and took an HPT. It came out negative.
Last night she confided in me again about her late period and I suggested to her that she buy another test and try again today. She did exactly that and is in fact pregnant. So, she was expecting her period on October 28th, tested negative on October 31st but tested positive on November 6th. Follow me?
She is having an absolute meltdown tonight and has been on the phone with me for quite some time in hysterics. I understand the basics of the menstrual cycle and all of the “unknowns” that can present themselves regarding ovulation and fertile dayes.
However, the big question remains…which guy do YOU think would have the highest chance of being the father of her child? My gut tells me Guy #1 and she is insisting there’s no way and it’s Guy #2. She also says that her physician made it explicitly clear to stay protected during sex because she had gastric sleeve surgery in March and should NOT get pregnant for at least two years. She says he warned her that she’d become “super fertile” after surgery as well (not sure how much water that holds?).
If you made it this far, I thank you. Please let me know what you think. I’ve tooled around with some dating calculators and put in a variety of dates and every one of them points to Guy #1, although anything is possible. Hmm…
I just spoke to my friend and she said the reason her surgeon warned her about pregnancy is entirely nutritional related. During the first 18 months following her surgery, she is at peak levels for losing rapid amounts of weight and she is not “nutritionally sound” (for lack of better words). While she is able to carry a healthy baby to term at this time, she will required special care to assure her nutrition is adequate for both her and baby.