Post # 1
Maid of Honor dilemma!
Option K: We have been friends for almost 8 years. She is my best girlfriend and was one of my roommates in college. She doesn’t wear her emotions on her sleeves so as close as we are, we are never really that close because she never truly shares what she’s thinking. I feel like its a game sometimes. BUT she has always been there in my time of need and would die for me if necessary. plus she is going into party planning as her career. Note: She lives 10 min away.
Option A: Cousin. awesome. super close. I can tell her anything. Basically my sister BUT she lives halfway across the country and is in college and will be still at the time of my wedding.
I really don’t know who to choose. I love A and I love K! I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings and if I could have to MOH’s I totally would. I just need some opinions from the outside world. Please!
Post # 4
I voted for A, but i would talk to her first because she may feel as if she can’t be there enough for you..or maybe can’t make it due to her schedule.
Post # 5
Is either of them married? And how many people are you planning on having in your Wedding Party? Why can’t you have both of them?
Post # 6
Why can’t you have 2? I am not having one at all. I don’t think there are really any rules on having more than one.
If you really want just one I would go with the friend who is close, just because she will be able to help with Maid/Matron of Honor duties a little bit easier than your cousin.
Post # 7
i vote for both. i don’t see why you can’t have two.
Post # 8
Have them both! I have two MOHs and two bridesmaids. My MOHs are splitting duties, one is doing the bachelorette party, one is throwing me a shower and both are being incredibly supportive. They each have unique talents and it’s really great to have both of them as sounding boards. If I have a question about dresses or makeup, I ask the one who used to work in fashion, if I have questions about timelines and logistics, I call the other who was a stage manager. I chose two MOHs but in contrast my groom is refusing to “rank” his friends and has four groomsmen, period. Everyone is cool with our decisions. Do what works best for you.
Post # 9
I vote for both but if you only choose one, I vote for your cousin. I know it sounds sucky, but your family will be there when your friends fade away.
Post # 10
I’m having two and splitting the duties like ladyox did. Fiance is relieved because now he will have two Best Men.
But if you’re going to go all “traditional” like – I’d go with K…
Post # 11
I vote for both as well. I have two MOHs and they are finding it so much easier to plan everything because they have each other.
Post # 12
I vote you have both of them!!
Post # 13
I say both as well! I’m having 2 (technically, since 1 is married & the other is not they’re a maid & matron but close enough!) and am super excited. One is my best friend who I’ve known for 16 yrs, the other is my sister who’s 9 yrs younger and still in college. They both mean the world to me=)
Post # 14
I vote for having both of them as your MOHs. But if you HAVE to only have one, I voted for your cousin.
Post # 15
I think have two. And ask them to split the duties between them. I think that’s the best option and you get both your close girlfriends standing close to you on your big day!