Post # 1
So, Fiance and I are having a destination wedding that is only a state away and in the US. We really want to keep it small and total invite list has stopped at 63. I really would love it to just be about half that and am hoping that some just won’t come due to the travel factor. But I feel awkward about not inviting them because they are family (though distant in terms of location and manner of relationship, i.e. we don’t talk or really see each other much at all). Is it a bad plan to invite all these people and hope that many don’t come? Should I just not invite them? I don’t want to hurt feelings but I also want to keep costs down and really celebrate with people who are close to us.
Did you have a lot of NO RSVPs for your destination wedding? Will the guest list likely get trimmed down based on the travel issue?
Post # 3
So we had a destination wedding about 4 hours away and we had only 2 no’s out of our 60 total invited guests. The travel was not an issue for most people because we invited our closest friends and immediate family only.
Post # 4
If you really only want close family and friends, then do that. People may get offended, but just put the word out there that you would just like an intimate wedding with close family and friends. I am not inviting people who do not share in our relationship, and our life. No matter who they are. It is more important to us to have people who know us as a couple, and share in our life and make it better to be there. Good Luck!
Post # 5
I would just invite close family and friends, the ones you want to show up. Its okay to have a small intimate wedding. I wouldn’t risk inviting everyone because you never know who will show up.
As a reference, I am having a Destination Wedding and we invited about 80 people and 35 are coming. However, our is in Dominican Republic. Having a wedding only a state over would be easier for guests to attend than out of country so I could potentially see more people showing up.
Post # 6
We did an online save the date with electronic RSVP’s and invited about 120 people. Some people outright said they couldn’t do it and we got a really good feel for who was really interested in going so we sent them official invites physical and online invites which was only about 60 folks. We ended up having 41 people at our wedding in the Bahamas and it ROCKED!!!!! Good Luck!
Post # 7
We had about 40% say no.
It had to do with a combination of travel costs and the fact that school was back in session and either the guests (in grad school) or their kids couldn’t miss school so people couldn’t get away.
Post # 8
@elimel123: excellent idea-i love it and will totally do this-already got a website started. brilliant.
thanks to everyone for the input-totally helpful!