Post # 1
I am engaged to the love of my life, and we are hoping to have a small wedding of about 35-40 people. Our ceremony would be at my church, with a dinner to follow, with no dancing. I am assuming that it would be about 8-9 pm by the time everything is finished…
I was just wondering if any other brides did this or are doing this, and if they regret not having the big dance and bash, and also if you and your new hubby did anything (aside from the obvious;P) special once you left your wedding dinner.
Any info would be appreciated:)
Post # 3
I’m having a smallish wedding myself – 56 guests including the bridal party. For the longest time I thought I wanted the big party and the dance and all that jazz – but the more I thought about it, and how I felt about the last few weddings I’ve attended, I knew that was not truely the case.
I am only 26, but I don’t want to get drunk, or be out all hours of the morning. I want to go, have a nice time, but be home by 9:30pm 😉 haha
Post # 4
If you’re worried you’ll miss out, how about a compromise?
Have your intimate ceremony and dinner, then invite those who’d like to join to go out with you. You could go to a piano bar for an upscale feel or a night club if you want to get down.
Post # 5
@MrsEsteyToBe: Are you planning to have a big done up wedding gown or are you downplaying it?
Post # 6
@GingerSweepea: we are having a wedding with about 60 people (we wanted less, but have larger immediate families) and are having dancing. I don’t really care about dancing and honestly hope that no one really cares either. Our crowd probably wont be on the dancefloor much, which is ok with me. We have to be out by 10 so we wont have a long reception anyways. I am mostly excited about getting together with people and just having fun (not drinking heavily and dancing, just mingling, etc.)
Post # 7
@GingerSweepea: we had an intimate wedding with only 38 guests. it was perfect. we had our ceremony on site at 6pm, followed by cocktail hour, dinner and then dancing. i wouldn’t have changed a thing. i enjoyed every minute of it.
Post # 8
That’s actually the reason we’re having a small wedding.
Whether as the hosts or the guests, we prefer intimate weddings. To me, a wedding is a formal and intimate occasion.
Post # 9
@GingerSweepea: Oh I still went full-on with the dress 😛 Alfred Angelo Belle 206 (think big tulle ball-gown). It’s still a wedding, despite the small numbers so I didn’t really compromise on all the “normal” thing you include 🙂
@swisea01: I wanted 30 or less, but in our immediate families alone we have 25… o.o And we could not imagine our wedding without our closest friends so we had to expand it. lol.
Post # 10
We are actually splitting ours into a small ‘party’ in one province and a small ‘reception’ in another. I don’t like the thought of not being able to socialize and talk to everybody there, so the smaller the easier to do this.
Post # 11
Ok, so mine feels big compared to everyone else…but I have a guest list of a little less than 150, but most of these people probably won’t be able to make it so I am expect anywhere between 50-80 guests. We are having the ceremony followed by a potluck style dinner and dancing.
Post # 12
We’re having a small wedding – 30 people – at a Bed & Breakfast. No dancing, but there will be a wine-paired four course meal. We’re also going to have i-spy games with vintage polaroid cameras, a Frank Sinatra playlist for background, and “wedding pie”. I think it’s actually better than a big wedding (at least for us) because it’s more memorable and you can have a lot more flexibility. For instance, I’m splurging on the invitations, and we’re doing mismatched vintage china. You could never do that with 150 people! (well you could, but you’d be broke after).
I say do what makes you happy. You won’t regret it.
Post # 13
60 guest (small to us), followed by cocktail hour & reception. Definitely dancing, our families like to party. They’d be bored to tears without an awesome dj & a nice dance floor. Seems like people sometimes expect smaller weddings to be more low key but doesn’t have to be that way. We’re having a really elegant wedding and with only 60 we haven’t had to cut back on much. Yay for having our dream ceremony & dream reception.
Post # 14
I picked the big wedding only bc you listed that one as having dancing.
Post # 15
@BeeandBeeBride27: mmmm 4-course meal with a wine tastings sounds AMAZING.
We are having a small wedding (35ish) and will be having dinner and dancing. However, we did discuss not having a traditional reception and just doing dinner and going out to a fun place afterwards. Depending on where you live you could invite people to a wine bar, piano bar, lounge, dive bar, wherever you like! I think that could help with the feeling of not having a “traditional” large affair.
Post # 16
@GingerSweepea: We got married on a sailboat at sunset in January. 25 people, including us. It was intimate and lovely.