(Closed) Calling all bees who found a great guy AFTER being cheated on

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
Member
10479 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Ex cheated on me for pretty much 7 years straight.

I never had a problem trusting Fiance after we met, it was easy. I believe in trusting people until they give me a reason not to and I also made the decision not to punish him because of things my ex did. Fiance is a different person and doesn’t deserve for me to be paranoid and untrusting of him because my ex was a jackass.

 If something were ever to happen, it happens. I’ll deal with it and move on just like I did the last time. I don’t want to waste my life living in fear just because some guy was a dumbass and I put up with it.

Post # 3
Member
1252 posts
Bumble bee

View original reply
pammylammy :  I dated my ex for 4 years. It wasn’t until the very bitter end that I realized he was cheating on me. I was a virgin I met him when I was 16, dated till I was about 19. I refused to go that far with him because I wasn’t ready & that little voice in the back of my head told me not too. He wasn’t just a cheater but he was an abuser as well. After those 4 years of my life I was a mess and never thought I could trust somebody again. 

I met my husband a year and a half after the break up. I was working an extra shift on a Saturday morning, filling in for another girl who’s grandmother passed away. It was in a completley different city but I took the offer of getting paid extra for working outside my work week. My husband happened to walk into the bank that day and he commented on the car show that day. He cracked a light joke about seeing me that day and I shrugged it off. Needless to say I didn’t see him that night but he did find me on instagram, we had been following the same car page for years. He asked me to go for a coffee and here we are 3 years later. It was hard for me to trust my husband; but he was very patient with me. He wasn’t pushy and he understood my past and what I had been through. I had more body issues than trust issues.

As for trusting my instincts; I always had them. I just choose to ignore my instincts when I was with my ex, because sometimes it’s easier than the truth. I can say there is hope at the end of the tunnel. I never thought there was, but I am living proof of two things.

1. You can get so broken & beaten down you loose yourself’ but you will always find who you are supposed to be in life.

&

2. Love is never hurtful.

Post # 4
Member
34 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I am marrying a wonderful man in a year. My son’s father (my ex) left me at home caring for our son well he slept with another women. It damaged my self esteem so badly, I lost hope, and though every man was a bad man. It hasn’t been an easy road, but I am with a man who I can actually trust. The self esteem issue is something i’m still working on, but he makes me feel beautiful and he swept me off my feet and showed me what true love is all about…All the best to you! There are good people left in this world!

Post # 5
Member
2394 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

View original reply
pammylammy :  I did!!! Honestly at first I didn’t trust him at all. lol For me it took time and taking things very slow. Over time his actions showed me he could be trusted. The most important thing for me was therapy. And only putting stock in his ACTIONS because what you say is much easier to fake than what you DO. 

The topic ‘Calling all bees who found a great guy AFTER being cheated on’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors