(Closed) Calling all bees who got legally married BEFORE the wedding

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Did getting legally married ahead of time affect the "special" factor of your wedding day.

    Yes, I feel that getting married early took away from how special my wedding does.

    No, my wedding was every bit as special as if that was the day we were legally wed, too.

  • Post # 2
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I am getting legally married next weekend, and big wedding is in October.  I am a little worried about this too but super excited for both “weddings” and feeling good about the decision. Hopefully we get some helpful responses!

    Post # 3
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    Bumble bee

    We were married 3 months before our wedding. We wanted to start the process for me to move to Europe(where Darling Husband is from) ASAP.  Our parents, siblings and most of our friends knew. It wasn’t a big secret or anything. I thought the officiant we chose for the ceremony would think it was weird but that wasn’t the case.

    I didn’t feel any less excited about our wedding. What happened for us was getting to feel giddy with happiness twice. LOL Once semi-privately and then a few months later with family and friends. lolz I’d totally do it the same way again.

    Post # 4
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    You could look at it as having TWO special days. I wish I’d hired an official photog the day we got registered!

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

    Legally married Nov ’13, wedding June ’14. I cried on both days- so nope, don’t think it affected it! It was absolutely moving to have my friends and family gathered for the wedding, there’s never anything un-special about that! We saved exchanging rings until the wedding as that was important to me.

    Post # 6
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    We had to have a legal wedding before the big church wedding (which will be in september) as in my FH’s country, where we are having the wedding, it is required by law. The civil cerimony was held in Italy. The big Church wedding will be in my FH’s country In September.  

    I come from italy, but we are currently living abroad in a third country (uk). My parents are not very involved in planning the Big Church Wedding as it they don’t speak the local language of FH’s country. So they wanted to have a little private celebration in the little Italian town I grew up in, and insisted in making the civil cerimony a little more than the private document signing I wanted. It gave them something to plan and be involved in.

    To be honest, I thought it would take away from the big church wedding we are planning in September, but now I am glad we had the little celebration. It gave rhe families the opportunity to meet and get to know each other without the stress of the big day, and we saw it as a pre wedding “rehearsal” meeting. 

    My in-laws met my parents for the first time that day, as we had a short dating/engagement and they had never had the chance to meet. We met at my family home and walked all together to the town hall. i went to the florist that morning asking for a small little bouquet and the florist almost fainted with shock 😉 my outfit was a skirt from Coast and cardigan and shoes from a high street store. I got frustrated with my hair and just stuck it In A pony tail :). my best friend is a professional photographer and took some lovely photos.

    We went for a nice lunch at a local farm restaurant and then went home to watch a soccer match. very relaxed and no stress at all. There were 14 people total, the only friends we invited were three people who can’t make it to the Big Church Wedding.

    FH and I went back to London the next day and life resumed as usual. 

    we didn’t make an official announcement about the civil wedding as we don’t want to spoil the excitement of the “real” Big Church Wedding, but we didn’t keep it a secret either.  (First pic with FH, second with dad). 

    i am so excited about September. I will have 120 people coming from all over the world to see me marry my husband In a beautiful church, and share our happiness and have a great time. To me, marriage is also about creating a new family unit in front of our community of family friends and peers as well as a spiritual and romantic union. The civil cerimony was a legal agreement, which is important, but not the focus of what I see marriage as. I think you will be wonderfully excited, I know I struggled with the idea of separate ceremonies, but now I am glad it is working out like this. My 2 cents: see it as two different and exciting events, and have fun!! 

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee

    We’re doing it (we have no choice for bureaucratic reasons), and I don’t think it will take away from that day 🙂

    Post # 8
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    Newbee

    We eloped last year in Denmark, and this July we’ll have a wedding ceremony in a church and a  reception with our family and friends. 

    I’m still super excited for our bigger family wedding, but I absolutely loved our intimate getaway. It was an adventurous trip and lovely experience. 

    I’m also really excited for my husband to see me purtied up and to have professional photographs done! (photos from the Denmark trip were taken with a smartphone by the witnesses we didn’t even know).

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    We got legally married on our 4 year anniversary and our wedding is this August. For our legal ceremony only my parents and our two witnesses were there, there ceremony was 5 minutes long bare bones (we didn’t do vows or rings because we want August to be the ‘real’ one) and we grabbed lunch after at a poutine place. 

    So far Im still incredibly excited for the August ceremony! As I said, the legal one was special, but we’re treating August like the ‘real’ one. We aren’t wearing our bands and don’t refer to each other as husband and wife yet.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    We legally married in 2012 and in March had a splashy wedding. To give you an idea, my hubby actually turned to me and said..,I’m starting to get nervous. It was a fantastic day and if you want to do this I think it’s fine.

    Post # 11
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2015 - Butterfields Ballroom

    Our wedding is in November but my Fiance and I got married at the first of this year, we wanted to keep it quiet and special so we decided not to tell our families or friends. We met the JOP in the park with 2 witnesses and had a very short little ceremony. We saved the vows and the ring exchange for the ceremony in November so we just said “I DO” and signed the marriage license. It was still very special but because there was no “ceremony” it didn’t really feel like we were married, I’m sure that feeling will come after the official walk down the isle that we are both very excited about!

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