We had to have a legal wedding before the big church wedding (which will be in september) as in my FH’s country, where we are having the wedding, it is required by law. The civil cerimony was held in Italy. The big Church wedding will be in my FH’s country In September.
I come from italy, but we are currently living abroad in a third country (uk). My parents are not very involved in planning the Big Church Wedding as it they don’t speak the local language of FH’s country. So they wanted to have a little private celebration in the little Italian town I grew up in, and insisted in making the civil cerimony a little more than the private document signing I wanted. It gave them something to plan and be involved in.
To be honest, I thought it would take away from the big church wedding we are planning in September, but now I am glad we had the little celebration. It gave rhe families the opportunity to meet and get to know each other without the stress of the big day, and we saw it as a pre wedding “rehearsal” meeting.
My in-laws met my parents for the first time that day, as we had a short dating/engagement and they had never had the chance to meet. We met at my family home and walked all together to the town hall. i went to the florist that morning asking for a small little bouquet and the florist almost fainted with shock 😉 my outfit was a skirt from Coast and cardigan and shoes from a high street store. I got frustrated with my hair and just stuck it In A pony tail :). my best friend is a professional photographer and took some lovely photos.
We went for a nice lunch at a local farm restaurant and then went home to watch a soccer match. very relaxed and no stress at all. There were 14 people total, the only friends we invited were three people who can’t make it to the Big Church Wedding.
FH and I went back to London the next day and life resumed as usual.
we didn’t make an official announcement about the civil wedding as we don’t want to spoil the excitement of the “real” Big Church Wedding, but we didn’t keep it a secret either. (First pic with FH, second with dad).
i am so excited about September. I will have 120 people coming from all over the world to see me marry my husband In a beautiful church, and share our happiness and have a great time. To me, marriage is also about creating a new family unit in front of our community of family friends and peers as well as a spiritual and romantic union. The civil cerimony was a legal agreement, which is important, but not the focus of what I see marriage as. I think you will be wonderfully excited, I know I struggled with the idea of separate ceremonies, but now I am glad it is working out like this. My 2 cents: see it as two different and exciting events, and have fun!!